Let's dissect the Singaporean education system. |
Singaporean kids are under a lot of pressure to excel - this pressure comes from a multitude of sources: from their parents, their extended family, their teachers, their peers, their friends, from social media, from society in general but most of all, from themselves. I invite you to watch the clip below which I have used before - it features Amelia, a student in Singapore and it is clear that she is a highly disciplined, motivated and hardworking student. Now if you were to move Amelia and her family to the UK (imagine if her father's company decides to move him to their branch in London), would she suddenly change? That is not likely to happen - she is going to be pretty much the same Amelia, still working very hard to achieve straight As. You can take the girl out of Singapore, but you can't take Singapore out of the girl. It doesn't matter whether she is in Bedok or Boston, Bukit Batok or Birmingham. Likewise in the UK, there are plenty of British kids who are just like Amelia and are as hardworking and motivated as she is - there are also British parents who do push their kids as hard as Amelia's parents. There are various factors which would affect how hard parents push their kids to achieve a lot in school here in the UK - the key difference is the peer pressure Singaporeans kids experience to excel.
At the end of the day, if you want to achieve great things in the UK such as get a scholarship, go to one of the best universities, get a great job, make loads of money, be extremely successful in your career, well there's no need to reinvent the wheel here. The kind of Singaporean/East Asian work ethic does go a long way in helping you make your dreams come true and if you were to look at some of the most successful people in the UK, they have an amazing work ethic that well and truly puts me to shame. The only difference I suppose is that kids in Singapore face far more peer pressure to excel and succeed than their British counterparts but I am still trying to battle this Singaporean misconception that "Angmoh = lazy" and really, it isn't that straightforward. Some white people are lazy whilst others are hardworking, being Caucasian doesn't automatically render you lazy - the same way there are indeed East Asians who are lazy. A lot of it depends on your social environment - who are your neighbours, your classmates, your colleagues, your friends and your bosses? Who do your kids play with? Who is exerting peer pressure on you and your kids? That's when we go back to the British social class system - the answer to all of those questions would depend a lot on your social class. Singaporeans often completely ignore that important part of the equation when passing judgement on 'lazy Angmohs'.
However, if you have a situation whereby the parents are not enforcing enough discipline at home - say the parents allows the naughty child to get away with misbehaving all the time, then the child will have boundary issues and have the audacity to challenge the teacher in the classroom. This can leave the poor teacher very frustrated as the teacher just wants to get on with teaching the syllabus without having to deal with discipline-related issues! Perhaps I am showing my age here but when I was in primary school, all the teacher had to do was threaten to call your parents and the student would immediately beg for mercy. It would be considered a huge shame if the teacher had to call up your parents and drag them to school to talk about your behaviour - that would almost certainly mean facing double punishment, from the teacher and a far harsher punishment from your parents. Modern teachers have a far better relationship with the parents of their students today, but the essentials of that partnership hasn't changed over the years. Without parents bringing up their children properly, they can be impossible to teach in the classroom and the teacher is not a magician, you cannot realistically expect the Singaporean teacher to solve all the problems that the parents have created in the first place.
A teacher is there to teach, not to discipline your child. |
To put things in perspective, a history teacher in a Singaporean secondary school gets about 6 periods a week with his class and that teacher would teach several classes in the school in a term. Now each school may have different ways of organizing their timetables and the length of periods may vary from school to school, but you get the idea - the teacher has no more than a few hours a week with his students and at that rate, he would have trouble even memorizing the names of each student in the first few weeks! That's why some teachers make students wear name tags (or at least have their names written on a piece of paper on their desk) during the first few lessons. At this rate, can you realistically expect the history teacher to take the time to sort out discipline issues? No, the teacher is just trying to bludgeon the students through the syllabus and make sure he has covered every item the students have to cover that term. There would be a teacher in charge of discipline in the school, so if a child misbehaves, then the history teacher would say, "I will let Mr Fong deal with you later!" Now this Mr Fong probably has never taught the child, doesn't understand the situation well and isn't going to do anything more than just punish the child for having misbehaved in class. I remember there were kids in my primary and secondary school who drove "Mr Fong" nuts because they were regular visitors to his office, no amount of his punishment could make them change their ways. Punishment and rehabilitation are simply not the same thing but many people assume they are: it is actually a far more complicated process than most people imagine.
These problem kids who drove 'Mr Fong' up the wall often had parents who didn't enforce any discipline - perhaps they were neglectful parents who didn't make the effort to spend enough time with their kids, or you have the other extreme, where the parents have no concept of parenting and simply let the kids get away with murder at home. But it is evident that even in Singapore, with Singaporean kids so entrenched in the Singaporean education system, things can go wrong if the parents simply do not play that vital part in supplying a healthy dose of old fashioned Asian discipline. Furthermore, even when you do have extremely dedicated, loving parents doing their utmost for their child, the child could still turn out to be mediocre or even below average for other reasons, such as having a somewhat below average IQ. Thus even in Singapore, with hardcore Asian parents driving with their children through the Singaporean education system, results aren't always guaranteed. You then have a 打肿脸充胖子 situation whereby the parents realize their child isn't particularly intelligent, yet they are hoping to somehow no one else will realize that if they can somehow still get their child to produce decent results with the help of tuition teachers. Such is Singapore and the kind of shame society heaps on those who do not perform well academically. It is something they will gladly keep up for many years, paying for expensive professional help until the day the child finally gets a job. Then at that point, they can turn around and say, "How can I be stupid if I have managed to get good results as a student? I'm a graduate! I've a degree!" Singaporeans take it to quite an extreme, even sending their kids to private universities when the degree isn't even worth the paper it is printed on.
Singaporeans face huge pressure to get a degree. |
Thus for the Singaporean parents of SUKA, bringing their kids up in the UK, you can count on them to play their role when it comes to instilling a lot of of discipline in their children from a very young age. And as for the teachers and the British education system - well, it is not as bad as you think: I know many Singaporeans will imagine that exams are a lot easier, that kids simply coast through the system without putting in much effort. That is not quite true - the teachers in the UK are not that different from those in Singapore, the key difference however, is that there isn't the 打肿脸充胖子 mentality here in the UK. If the kids are natural smart, then they will excel regardless: oh yes, there are kids who are so brilliant they will get straight As without actually working that hard. If they are mediocre or below average, then the parents simply shrug their shoulders, say 'oh well, don't worry, it is no big deal' and accept things for what they are. That actually places the kids of the kiasu SUKA parents in a good position because they make their kids work so much harder than their British classmates and the Singaporean kids in British school often top their classes because of just how hard their parents push them. Note that this is not an exclusively Singaporean trait, but something associated with all East Asians. The infamous Tiger Mum Amy Chua was born in the America to ethnic Chinese migrants from the Philippines - it is clear that our strict East Asian culture plays a big part in this and any link to NS is simply not there, because some East Asian countries have NS (Singapore, Taiwan & South Korea) whilst others don't (Japan, China & Hong Kong).
And of course, if you have a problem child - you know, one of those regular visitors to Mr Fong's office - then clearly, there are serious problems at home that go back a long way. Simply saying, "hey I've screwed up as a parent, my child is a loser and a monster - but please SAF, I have faith in you, please sort my terrible son out and I expect a fine young man at the end of two years, thank you very much!" How unreal and unreasonable is that? But that's just a moot point - judging form the tone of the discussions on the SUKA Facebook group, they all sound like pretty decent, typical Singaporean parents and I can't imagine any of them being terrible parents like the way Irene Clennell was.. What I found a bit strange was the way they seem so keen to give the PAP credit for everything: there was this woman whose son was brought up in the UK and he was sent packing back to Singapore to do NS; credit to the young man he's doing just fine. This woman put herself down and her son down - saying how she had to do everything for him, including pack his bags when he was younger and how in just a few short months he has turned into a fine young man, as if by magic! And I'm like, hey, if your son was totally useless he would have floundered and crumbled in BMT like so many others - the fact that he is doing okay means that you must have raised him well so auntie, please give yourself and your son some credit, okay? But this mother refuses to take any credit for how well he is coping and prefers to paint a picture of the SAF has doing her the greatest favour in the world. Such is the mindset of the typical SUKA parent. Go figure, duh.
Do you think NS will sort out a troubled young man? |
So that's it from me on this issue - I hope I have explained the complex relationship between the teachers and the parents, the education system and the Asian family in this post and why it really doesn't matter whether the Asian family is in Tampines or Toronto, Bukit Merah or Bristol. It is also nice to have the opportunity to elaborate on some of the points I have made earlier about NS. Let me know what you think, please do leave a comment below. Many thanks for reading.
@LIFT then in your previous article you are over-crediting the Singapore education system. Just like NS can't miraculously change a young male into a leader or someone with mental fortitude, the Singapore education system cannot miraculously change a student into someone with discipline who respects authority. Lots of neglectful parents try to foist the responsibility on the school to change their misbehaving kids but it is really not their problem.
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In fact modern day teachers have absolutely no power compared to those from the 80s or 90s. In those days teachers were no-nonsense and brought wooden rulers to class to rap the knuckles of unruly students. Exercise books flying across the classroom or out the window to the ground floor were common occurrences. Teachers these days can't raise their voice or lay a hand on their students. In fact student's parents have even taken to sueing the school when their precious kids mobile phones get confiscated.
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/when-parents-oppose-a-school-s-disciplinary-methods-8925850
Ah, yes and no. You make a valid point sir, but you raised the issue in regards specifically to the kids of the SUKA parents in the UK and you couldn't find a group o more kiasu, typically Singaporean parents and my point was simple: you can certainly count on this lot to bring up their kids in a very Singaporean way, thus they really do not need to send their sons back to Singapore to do NS because they don't need any more discipline. Maybe a bit more free spirited living to cultivate a sense of independence and creativity. Put them in a position where nobody is going to tell them what to do.
DeleteBut my point about the Singapore education system is that it is more than just what the MOE is doing - otherwise, I would have given the credit specifically to the MOE or perhaps the schools/teachers. But the unique situation in Singapore is how the system is dependent on parents participating by supplying the discipline and so the teacher can just get on with teaching at a really fast pace, rather than worry about naughty students. Sure there are exceptions to the rule, there are neglectful parents in Singapore - but that doesn't fundamentally change the system in Singapore. But you don't need to feel sorry for the teachers in Singapore these days because they are adapting - things are evolving and changing over time of course, you can't expect Singapore to remain unchanged since the 80s, but modern teachers have their methods of coping and the good ones at least have new, better ways of establishing a rapport with their students, rather than simply relying on punishment to stun the class into silence during the lessons. So yes, it is becoming more Westernized, albeit very slowly. Change doesn't come quickly to Singapore but I can't help but feel that you're somewhat judging the current system rather harshly.
I think your point is that the Singapore education system influenced these parents in a certain way and they are passing down this influence to their children. This i won't deny seeing how so many people are so brainwashed into thinking that without the PAP Singapore would be still a fishing village.
DeleteWell let me draw you a flow chart to analyze things the way I see it.
DeleteScenario 1: Kiasu Singaporean parents in the UK brings up their sons the traditional Asian way = at the age of 18, the boys are already very disciplined through their upbring = they don't need NS. The parents have already whipped the boys into shape and are probably far more scary than most sergeant majors in the SAF. Thus NS for them is a waste of time.
Scenario 2: the parents in the UK are neglectful or they spoil the kids rotten, so at the age of 18 they are trouble makers. The parents can't wait to send them to Singapore for NS in the vain hope that 2 years of NS will solve all their problems. But the SAF isn't able to do that - I remember once overhearing a conversation between two officers in my unit, this was with regards to a troublemaker in my unit and one officer said to the other, "你要我怎么办? 我也是拿他没有办法!" (What do you expect me to do? I also am at a loss what to do with him.) The officers in the SAF are only human - they are not magicians who can perform miracles. So in this case, there may be a short term relief to be rid of that trouble maker son for 2 years, but little will be solved in any case by the SAF. At the end of the 2 years, the son will return feeling angry, cheated and resentful at having been made to do NS.
In both situations, NS isn't the answer, it isn't what the child needs. In the first scenario, the child needs to learn how to be a lot more independent. In the second, well, the parents shouldn't have fucked up in the first place. You can't fuck up and then expect the SAF to make things right for you.
But regardless, the parents of SUKA do continue to send their sons to do NS because they are soooo brainwashed by the PAP about how great NS is to the point where they do not realize that they are not giving themselves enough credit as parents. Indeed, like the Singaporean education system, NS is reliant on the soldiers being willing to submit to authority, willing to obey commands, willing to do as they are told - if the boy is brought up with no regard for his parents' authority, then he will have serious boundary issues and be a trouble maker in NS. But most Singaporean boys have been moulded by their parents to be the perfect, meek recruit on the first day of BMT.
We don't talk about the link between Singaporean parenting and how NS works - it irks me so much when people ignore the first 18 years of the recruit's life when they talk about NS. Where did you think that young man had spent the last 18 years - in his mother's womb?
Sorry this is off topic but, choaniki & LIFT, did you know your exchange is cited in an article on TISG?
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So, there are more people reading the comments here than expected (thought this blog was a cozy community with about 20+ regular commenters -well I was wrong)!
LOL. I want royalties! But seriously, anything that drives traffic to my blog is good, thanks for sharing the link.
DeleteOK so she had an awkward handshake, that's no big deal compared to Corbyn's boob high five: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbuY_vq5gD8