Wednesday, 15 February 2023

Jared O'Mara: so this is why the UK political system is broken

Hi guys, allow me to share a story that has been in the news in the UK, it is quite an extraordinary story about how a former MP has been jailed - whilst a BBC article has covered the details of how former MP Jared O'Mara had gone from obscurity to MP to now a convict behind bars, it doesn't really explain the reasons why he got elected in the first place. We don't expect our politicians to be as pure as nuns, but at the very least, most of us don't expect them to be criminals that get locked away in jail. So in a nutshell, the story begins in 2017 when O'Mara got elected as MP for the seat of Sheffield Hallam, defeating then deputy PM Nick Clegg of the Liberal Democrats. Clegg had become hugely unpopular in his time as deputy PM, having made a lot of poor decisions and compromises - hence his defeat didn't come as much of a surprise. In fact, some of us were even surprised that he had the nerve to stand for election again in 2017 knowing that the chances of him winning were at best, very slim. This meant that the seat probably going to be won by the Labour party - looking at the track record of the voters in Sheffield Hallam, since 1997, they have either gone for Labour (left wing) or Libberal Democrats (centrist) and you would have to go way back to 1992 when they last voted for a Conservative (right wing) candidate. Thus, it was with good reason to assume that the Labour candidate had a pretty high chance of winning in that election, yet bizarrely enough, Labour chose to field Jared O'Mara in that election and sure enough, he swept to an easy victory over Clegg with a reasonably comfortable margin. This defeat marked Clegg's departure from politics and put O'Mara in the spotlight despite having had very little experience in politic,- he had been a member of the Labour party but his selection as the candidate to run in 2017 took many by surprise. Back then, O'Mara had been this music venue in Sheffield called West Street Live - he wasn't even an obvious choice to be their candidate. 

O'Mara turned out to be the worst possible MP on record: firstly, after his election, it was discovered that he had made really crass, sexist, homophobic, racist and other offensive comments on social media. He was like a lose cannon who had no concept of self-censorship and a lot of that was verging on hate crime. This begged the question - did nobody in the Labour party do any background checks on O'Mara before selecting him to run in that election? Then on top of that, he sexually harassed members of his own team. But of course, all this was nothing compared to the fraud he was committing in his time as an MP - you see, MPs are not only paid a generous salary but they can also claim expenses for the work they do. O'Mara was a drug addict and an alcoholic - these drugs don't come cheap and O'Mara was heavily in debt to his drug dealers. That was when he started fabricating expenses claims to get more money to fuel his drug habit and eventually, it was his own team who turned him in and made the police report. O'Mara was not a well-organized criminal, quite the opposite: he left a trail of evidence for the police to pick over. And in the meantime, none of the work as an MP got done whilst he was busy spending the tax payers' money on  drugs and partying - you might think, well that should teach the voters of Sheffield Hallam a lesson for electing someone like that! But what did they do next? They elected yet another Labour MP after O'Mara stepped down and I shake my head thinking, that's the problem with democracy. You get what you voted for and this is a good example of Turkeys voting for Christmas. The last Labour MP Sheffield Hallam voted for turned out to be the worst on record and what do they do? They vote for Labour again as if O'Mara had left such a great legacy - that is the story so far in a nutshell, but I wanted to analyze this ridiculous situation.

British politics has always been run by the wealthy elites - let's take Rishi Sunak for example, he made headlines around the world as our first Asian prime minister, but he is also ludicrously rich and has nothing in common with white working class voters in places like Sheffield. This is a trend that is repeated over and over again when you look at the kind of ministers in charge of running the country for the last few decades and thus I can see why voters in a place like Sheffield which is poorer and more working class would be happy to vote for someone like O'Mara who clearly isn't part of the rich, elites who went to Oxford before embarking on a career in investment banking. A working class voter would think: maybe someone like O'Mara would understand what it is like for us common folks to struggle to make ends meet, he will understand our problems and challenges, so he will help us. That's why traditionally working class, poorer areas tend to vote for Labour most of the time. However, in the case of O'Mara, it demonstrated that this was a wrongful assumption to make: once O'Mara was an MP, he had zero intention to help the poor, he just wanted to use his position as an MP to get as much money as possible to feed his drug addiction and he barely did any work as an MP.  Working class people don't automatically want to help other working class people - that's a wrongful assumption of course but quite a common one actually. This is because a poor working class man is unlikely to be good friends or neighbours with someone as rich as Rishi Sunak; his social networks would mostly be within his own working class community and therefore if he was going to ask for help, he would have to default to asking another working class person for help; not because they are so kind and generous, but because he has no one else to ask! However, that is not a good enough basis to simply assume that a working class MP would be the better choice, as social class is not the right criteria to make that choice at the ballot box. 

Hence that's why the Labour party has somehow gotten away with the O'Mara debacle and they still hold the Sheffield Hallam seat today with another MP. As shocking as the story of O'Mara is, the voters in Sheffield Hallam still feel like voting Labour is the best choice for them. This reminds me of a situation of what happened in America under Obama - when Obama was running for president, it was historic as it was the first time Americans had the chance to vote for a black president. Thus in those elections, black American voters had the choice between Obama and an old white Republican candidate and so most just assumed that it was a foregone conclusion that the vast majority of black Americans would simply pick Obama (which was exactly what happened) but what are the consequences of this then? The Republicans don't bother chasing the black vote as they think they have no chance of persuading them to pick their candidate over Obama but by the same token, the Democrats presume that they already have secured the black vote, so they focus their efforts elsewhere like the Latino or the Asian vote. As a result, the needs of the black voters are not prioritized by either party and ironically, they are the ones who benefit the least from having a black president. Likewise, in the UK, traditionally the poorer, working class voters will default to voting for Labour as they are left wing whilst the richer, more middle class voters will lean towards either the centrist or the right wing parties. Thus we end up in the same situation in Sheffield Hallam, Labour knows that they have the working class vote pretty much sewn up as the working classes resent the right wing government in Westminster - therefore the voters put their faith an MP like O'Mara and pay a very high price for their folly when he did virtually no work at all in his term as their MP, because he was a drug addict! 

Another reason why the voters in Sheffield Hallam voted for O'Mara was because a lot of people are simply politically apathetic: they generally have a pretty good idea whether they are left or right wing on the political spectrum but when it comes to elections, they don't invest the time to do any research into any of the candidates who are standing for election. That was why Labour got away with selecting O'Mara despite the fact that he was woefully incompetent and unsuitable but the voters were still happy to vote for him. Part of the reason why people often have this mentality is because they live in a 'safe seat' - take the two parts of London where I had lived in the last 20 years. I spent part of those years in Westminster, which is a Conservative safe seat and then I moved to Camden, which is a Labour safe seat. That means the results of each election is a foregone conclusion because the same party always wins without any exception so by that token, my vote will not change the result, no matter whom I vote for. I never vote for the party that I know will win in a safe seat because I feel it is important to at least cut their margin of victory, to keep them on their toes rather than let them feel complacent but even then, that's an empty gesture - a protest vote that has no impact at all. I remember back in 2010 when the eruption of the volcano Eyjafjallajökull caused all flights to be suspended across Europe - that meant that my trip to Sri Lanka had to be delayed and there was a period when I had no idea when I would fly to Colombo and when I would be back as all the flights were messed up. So by the time I managed to arrange my new flights, I realized I would miss the local elections and I was like, oh no, I will miss my opportunity to make that empty gesture of protest by casting a vote that will have no impact whatsoever. That is why so many people in this country don't even bother to vote. 

In the interest of balance, I don't want you to think that this is an attack on the Labour party though it is still unreal to even try to begin to understand why they ever thought O'Mara would be a half-decent human being rather than an awfully sexist, homophobic, misogynistic sex pest, alcoholic, drug addict and criminal - the ruling party in the UK is the Conservative party and they are equally corrupt. They handed the Covid-19 pandemic terribly by using it as an opportunity to hand out the most lucrative contracts to their friends and family. Thus as I gaze across the political divide from left to right, I end up with the conclusion that they are all just as corrupt as each other and despite their differences, The common theme I see is that both parties get away with such blatant corruption because the voters are so set in their ways and the areas which get the best politicians standing as MPs are known as 'swing seats' - that means that the results in these seats are usually very close and the winning party usually wins by a razor thin margin. That way, if any party wants to win that seat, they would have to field their very best candidate (so definitely not Jared O'Mara) and they would put in an incredible amount of effort to convince the voters that they will work very hard to improve every aspect of life there. Even after a party wins that swing seat, they know they would have to work very hard to deliver on all their promises or else the voters will simply vote for a different party the next time round. Hence these swing seats get the best treatment by the government whilst the safe seats are the ones who end up with MPs like O'Mara. In politics, voter loyalty isn't rewarded - quite the opposite happens, those most loyal safe seats are treated the worst and ignored whilst the most fickle swing seats gets all the goodies that come in the form of investment into local services and infrastructure. 

So you could look at the case study of how Jared O'Mara and wonder, will things change in British politics after this disgraceful episode? Actually no, we only have to go back to 2009 when there was another big scandal in British politics that was so similar. A large number of MPs and members of the House of Lords had submitted false expenses claims and quite a number of them were actually jailed as they were effectively committing financial fraud and stealing from the government. Politicians from both sides of the divide, from both the left and from the right, were found guilty and jailed which shows that they are both just as corrupt as each other. Thus what O'Mara did several years later was simply a repeat of what happened back in 2009 and sure enough, we saw the same outcome: O'Mara was arrested for his crimes, trialed and subsequently jailed. The fact that something like that can happen again reveals unfortunately that no lessons were learnt after 2009 episode when so many politicians were jailed for the very same type of crime that O'Mara committed - this also indicates that O'Mara won't be the last who goes down this road, others will follow in his footsteps as long as long as the system doesn't change. The only way for us to see a fundamental change in the system is if all seats effectively become swing seats and that would then involve all voters holding their politicians and political parties to account, so in the case of Sheffield Hallam, if the voters were to do that, they would have voted for an MP from another party in order to punish the Labour party over the O'Mara scandal. But of course, that's not what happened, they simply defaulted to voting for yet another Labour MP instead of punishing the Labour party. This is a vicious cycle: the O'Mara case leaves voters very cynical about politicians, they become political apathetic as a result, so they stop holding their politicians to account or even bother to vote. That then create the kind of environment where political parties get away with more corruption and then the next scandal leaves voters even more cynical - so how can we break this cycle then? 

Thus the answer is very obvious: enough people need to get politically involved and show political parties that they will hold politicians to account at the ballot box. We need to break this pattern whereby most voters' choice is predetermined by their social class and economic status. Will we see another O'Mara in British politics? Yes we will, but there are plenty of corrupt politicians who are a lot more careful about abusing their privilege and position - O'Mara's folly was in slaying the goose that laid the golden egg by going way too far in his fraudulent expenses claims. Actually, a wiser, far more astute politician would make a lot more money by using that position of power to receive bribes and backhanders (which would make O'Mara's expenses claims look like spare change) and they can still look completely innocent to the public if they are good enough at covering their tracks. Thus corruption and the abuse of power still goes on everyday in the world of politics - that's a fact of life when it comes to British politics, hence it is a question of whether a politician would be as careless as O'Mara to leave a trail of evidence for the judge to examine when deciding how many years to sentence him to. I suppose O'Mara will be remembered as the one who got too greedy too quickly, the one who foolishly slayed the goose that laid the golden eggs instead of patiently collecting those eggs. So I would like to end with stating the obvious: you simply cannot assume a working class MP will care about working class people. You cannot assume that a black MP will care about black people. You cannot assume that a gay MP will care about gay people. You cannot assume a disabled MP will care about disabled people. Thus you cannot assume anything about anyone based on a box they have ticked and you ought to judge each politician by their actions and track record, instead of assuming anything about them. 

Okay, that's it from me on this topic, what do you think? Have you heard about the story of Jared O'Mara and were you shocked that a drug addict could become an MP in the UK? Were you surprised how long it took the authorities to finally put him behind bars where he belongs? Or are you simply rolling your eyes and saying, "come on, most politicians are so corrupt and are in it for personal gain, so this is hardly surprising, is it? O'Mara was just dumb enough to get caught." What else could be done to prevent something like that from happening again or is all this inevitable given the corrupt nature of politics? So, please do let me know what you think by leaving a comment below and many thanks for reading. 

31 comments:

  1. Hey SG has competition at last! 10 years ago Tin Pei Lin made news due to all the wrong reasons on social media. Now she is back and featured all over international news after joining Grab to do policy related work while holding an MP position!

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    1. Well at least she wasn't a drug addict who spent tens of thousands of dollars on coke!

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    2. That we wouldn't know what we do know is when she was young and naive she spent lots of (taxpayers) money on Kate Spade bags and got called out so she decided to be more discreet. But she's back with a vengeance and getting more cocky about it too!

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    3. She realizes that there are no consequences for her actions as she is with the PAP, she can do what the hell she wants until she is up against a credible opposition candidate.

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  2. Hey Alex. It's true you can't even expect immigrant politicians to care about immigrants and refugees, e.g Suella Braverman or Rishi Sunak. People who went to Oxbridge probably think the system is just fine, and even if they don't they may not have the answers for how to fix it. A lot of minorities like to say they shouldn't be asked to speak on behalf of entire groups, because they're just one person struggling to get by. A black person may be the victim of discrimination, but that doesn't mean they have studied public policy their whole life and know how to make new anti-discrimination laws. It's like how if someone has cancer it doesn't mean they are also a doctor who can cure people of cancer. Likewise with O'Mara, holy hell he can't even look after himself, let alone make laws to look after other working class people. Yeah I agree with you politicians are usually corrupt, they're just sneakier about it giving contracts to friends and getting kick-backs rather than outright stealing.

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    1. Look after himself?! He was a drug addict who couldn't work, he once drank a whole bottle of vodka (that's one litre) before a BBC interview and was rolling on the floor like a drunk idiot. What I wanna know is this: who the hell in the Labour party looked at a drug addict and alcoholic like O'Mara and thought, yeah he'll do, he'll make a fine MP. And how the heck did the people of Sheffield vote for someone like O'Mara despite the fact that his life was nothing short of a dumpster fire and he left nothing but a trail of destruction that led all the way to his jail cell?

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    2. Y'know, if O'Mara was a rich boy with a cocaine habit, I could believe that his rich politician uncle pulled a few strings to get him set up as an MP in a "safe seat." But no, he's a working class boy, what did he have to offer if he was bad at the job? I suppose he did at least go to university and graduate with a first class honours degree. Maybe he's just a bright scholarship boy who succumbed to bad habits. It happens... not every bright working class person has self-control and ends up succeeding. I see it a lot in football, lots of talented young players who fizzled out early due to partying and drugs. It's actually rare to see the Cristiano Ronaldo types who were born working class, talented, and have really good discipline.

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    3. Well cocaine is a very expensive habit and you need a lot of money to be able to put thousands of dollars of cocaine up your nose every week - that was what drove O'Mara to steal. It is easy to spend a little bit of money on a small dose of it, but once you get addicted, you crave more and more. That's how addicts go down a slippery slope and they lose complete control of the situation, their life then becomes an endless cycle of finding more money to spend on the drugs and that's why O'Mara was driven to fraud to try to feed his cocaine addiction. If he had been simply driven by greed, there are easier ways to exploit your position of power to earn extra money (such as taking bribes) without ending up breaking the law in the way which would end in a long jail sentence. I do wonder, what came first? The drug addiction or the MP position? Did power corrupt, ie. he didn't know what to do with all that money that he got on an MP's salary and decided to blow it all on drugs? Or was he already a drug addict long before anyone even suggested that he could run for an MP and he was merely put in a position whereby he conveniently had access to all that public money to feed his drug addiction? And why isn't the Labour party punished over this scandal?

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    4. I heard something about how the Labour party is trying to use the issue of "government procurement cards" to attack the Tory party, but since one of their own in Jared O'Mara is also doing the same thing, it's kinda a futile attempt. But credit to labour, it seems the media is more focused on Tory spending rather than Labour spending. Stealing for drugs doesn't look quite as bad as using expenses to wine and dine diplomats in posh settings. At least the latter isn't "stealing" per se if it results in good policy. It just looks bad to the working class since there's a cost of living crisis right now. I think the media is too distracted with other things to care about Jared O'Mara at the moment...

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    5. I have to beg to differ Amanda - taking class A drugs is still a criminal offence, stealing to fuel your drug addiction is a criminal offence whereas using expenses on wining and dining people you wanna do business with? Well, you can arrest me already if you think that this is so morally offensive it should be against the law - your father would have had broken that law many times as well. But putting any morals aside, I go by the principal of whether or not the expenses are allowed within the rules. I have been claiming expenses for work for years - so for example in my previous job, they paid all my mobile phone bills but in my current job, I was told, no that's a personal mobile we're not paying for it. So if you ever need a work mobile, we'll pay for it but not whilst you are basically doing Zoom calls most of the time or using something Web based like Whatsapp for calls, so we're not paying for your personal mobile. But my point is simple: you ask, "can I claim this on expenses?" If the answer is yes, then go ahead and spend it, then claim it. If the answer is no, then don't even try. What O'Mara did was clearly against the rules. Whilst spending a lot of money on diplomats may appear to be in bad taste, there's a key difference: that's not against the rules, that isn't illegal at all. So there are a lot of things which are in bad taste but not illegal, whilst there are some things which are just downright criminal. Therein lies the difference and that's why O'Mara is in jail now.

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    6. I think it's fine to wine and dine guests - in the private sector. Companies are not democracies, so the janitors cannot complain that company money is spent on fancy parties rather than increasing their salaries. Some companies don't even have janitors (e.g Twitter). But in the public sector they're using taxpayer dollars to buy champagne and oysters for all the EU diplomats to agree on new trade deals since Brexit. Since it's a democracy, all the poor people in the country can complain unlike the many janitors who work at Goldman Sachs or other big banks in the UK. By the way, it was Labour who brought up these expense accounts by the Tories even though it's not illegal compared to what one of their own did. I think it's ludicrous because wining and dining diplomats is just how you persuade people to agree with you, especially when billions in trade is on the line. If there's any hold-up at the channel tunnel to inspect goods, then there's gonna be an even worse cost of living crisis since many people will lose their jobs. But the poor people who voted for Brexit aren't going to see it that way given that nurses are protesting they aren't paid enough while Tories are sipping tax-funded champagne. Labour is just instigating voter anger so they'd win the next election. This is why I don't want to be a politician, nothing makes sense and both sides won't hesitate to make a big deal over nothing while ignoring big things like a drug addict MP.

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    7. Y'know I can see why Labour hasn't been winning for at least a decade. The people who usually vote for them, e.g the working class, don't see much improvement in their lives even if they voted Labour in. They just see the UK is extremely unequal and some people have it really good, while the rest barely make ends meet. I don't know much about UK history, but Alex since you lived in the UK through the 2000s when Labour was in charge, were nurses and other civil servants better off than under the current Tory regime?

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    8. Hi Amanda, I think it's quite unrealistic to expect the public sector not to function like the private sector in this aspect - there are close links between the government and businesses. I watched a news piece last night about how the regional government in Yorkshire (a region in the north of England, far away from London) is working hard to foster start ups and support them in Yorkshire because they want such activities to flourish in Yorkshire, rather than for all aspiring entrepreneurs to move to London as that's the obvious place to start a new business - that involved the government spending a lot of money engaging these businesses to create the kind of environment you need to achieve this goal and whilst you may look at that and say, that sounds pretty good actually, regional governments should do more projects like that but that does involve at some level the government spending money entertaining and engaging the people from the private businesses to take part in this programme. You cannot expect the government to behave like a nunnery if you want them to engage with the business world - rather, they have to be on the same wavelength as those in the business world if you wanna engage the business community and trust them that they are gonna be comfortable working with you. If I came across a government department trying to conduct themselves like a nunnery by refusing to spend a dollar on entertaining people they wanna engage with, then I would run a mile as I would not feel confident in the way they are conducting themselves - it just doesn't inspire confidence. I think there are reasonable limits of course, yes you need to engage and entertain the business community but in corrupt countries, there's a lot of bribery going on and whilst I have no problems with government departments having an expenses account for entertainment, I draw the line at bribery of course.

      As for your other question, look there are various ways to answer that question by looking at the statistics, cost of living etc but I think there are two keys factors at play here. Firstly, if you were to go back a generation, people didn't want that much stuff. Today, you could be living in the poorest neighbourhood in the country, but you have Instagram and other forms of social media telling you what rich people with money are doing and naturally, you look at that content and feel that you desire those things too, all those nice things you and your family cannot afford. It is the envy that social media brings and we didn't have all of this a generation ago. Then of course, we've had the triple whammy of Brexit + pandemic + war in Ukraine so even in the US, you've had 2 of those 3 so everyone is worse off today because of those factors.

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    9. OK even if we went back to my childhood in the 1980s, I could see what rich people were doing on TV, movies and sometimes in magazines and newspapers. Oh it was a different world, but it was not in your face all the time. I couldn't watch TV all the time - it was for a limited period everyday after I had done everything else. And with the magazines, it was again, a leisure activity that came after I had finished doing everything else. Sure I could still walk down Orchard Road in the 1980s and see what rich people did with their money there, but remember as a child growing up, I was surrounded by other poor working class people so I was actually sufficiently shielded from rich people and whilst I was aware that some people were very rich (remember, I had a crazy rich uncle, who was my dad's older brother), a poor person today would be able to look closely at their wealth and lifestyle everyday, in great detail, through social media as even the poorest people can get on the internet on a cheap phone and access all this content through social media these days.

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    10. Hey Alex. Isn't Yorkshire a rough part of England? I watch youtubers from Yorkshire complain about the high crime and high unemployment rate. I see why they want to persuade businesses to stay if that's the case. Yup, you can't expect government ministers to take business leaders to McDonalds to hammer out a deal. But even within Goldman Sachs it's the bankers at the top who are making the correct investment decisions that generate the company lots of profits, not the janitors at the bottom, cruel as that may sound. Similarly, the people at the top of the government could argue "I'm the one who is trying to stabilize the economy with new trade deals, so I deserve to drink some champagne with some EU diplomats while I'm doing it." We may live in an unequal society, but there's also an inequality in terms of contribution. If there were better jobs (like a Sweden or Norway situation where lowly paid jobs just don't exist), I doubt people would complain as much.

      Oh gosh when I see people showing off fancy handbags or cars on instagram I really question whether these are real rich people, because actual posh people don't like to show off that much. But I can see how it can make people feel like they haven't "made it" compared to their peers, I heard its a huge problem in Korea where young people go into debt for consumer goods, especially because there's no hope they'll ever buy a house in the metropolitan areas. Back then houses were very affordable, even if consumer goods were not. I think the issue is that nowadays people define themselves in terms of the stuff they can buy because the usual milestones like homeownership or getting married and raising a family are increasingly out of reach. But the problem with stuff is that it can vary a lot wildly than housing or family.

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    11. Yorkshire is really massive, it is 11,900 sq km so there are parts of it which are rich and some parts which are poor. But you could say the same about any country or region that size. Yorkshire is in fact bigger than countries like Qatar, Jamaica, Lebanon and Cyprus. Generally, on the whole, it is poorer than the Greater London area which is the richest part of the country, but there are still pockets of very nice areas where the rich in Yorkshire live.

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    12. I think I had a childhood friend who was half-British whose father was from Yorkshire, she talked about Yorkshire pudding all the time. The dad worked in finance so the family moved to Qatar after a few years for his job.

      Btw, since we're talking about working class vs. upper class and the importance of wining and dining, today I ran into another undergrad who told me they went to a job fair recently where none of the jobs he wanted were hiring international students, only US citizens or greencard holders. Oh gosh, he was complaining about how unfair it was, and I told him he could at least go to Canada for jobs since it's easier to get a work visa there. His response was "but I want to stay in the US." I just mentally rolled my eyes when I heard that, because what you want is not necessarily what is realistically possible according to local laws. I think it was you who mentioned "don't pick a path where the local laws are against you." If he wanted a job in software, there's plenty in the Toronto area or even London since recruiters do recognize our university's name in both Canada and the UK. The US is just hostile to immigrants in general, even the rich educated ones who work as software engineers for Google/Facebook have a long wait-time for a greencard(decades sometimes), and only 60 days to find a new job if they're laid off.

      Also, he was struggling to find a summer internship so he could stay in the US instead of going back home. And I told him to go out and network, and he also complained "oh it's who you know rather than what you know." I couldn't be bothered to lecture him about how unfair the world is and how entitled he sounds, so instead I told him there's a networking event for software engineers in our city at a certain bar in early March, and to just show up and ask people how they found their first job and who's hiring. I also took pity on him because I know he's on a full scholarship and his family is not wealthy(he's from a 3rd world country too, which is why he wants to immigrate to the US). But at the same time, I really could tell it was impacting his ability to find a job since his parents couldn't teach him the importance of networking in business. You can't just be booksmart to succeed as a software engineer, you also have to be socially savvy too.

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    13. Yorkshire pudding is very plain and is eaten all over the UK, not just in Yorkshire but I wouldn't say to you (if you visited me in London), Amanda let's go eat some Yorkshire puddings today! Nah, if you come across it, then I'd say that's a Yorkshire pudding, don't get excited, it is typically bland English food. But as for your socially inept friend, oh dear, that attitude actually sounds so Singaporean.

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    14. I would like to eat jellied eels if I came to the UK, maybe that tastes good? Or a proper fish and chips. I had fish and chips in Australia and that was amazing.

      Oh that friend of mine was Asian too(I won't say from where). I think you've mentioned before how social skills are more important in the West than Asia, yup yup yup. But there are also rich Asians at my school, and I can tell they're posh when they use networking to find jobs instead of just applying online. There are also poor white Americans at my school too, and they also complain about unfair hiring practices. It just shows how difficult it is to achieve social mobility if people don't tell you these hidden social rules you must follow to get in and stay in.

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    15. Jellied eels = bland and tasteless. It's very traditional English food and therefore to us Asians, it would be shockingly bland. The only special thing about it is the jelly, which is a by-product of boiling the eels in water as the cooking process releases collagen into the water thus creating the jelly. Just because it is traditional English food doesn't mean you will like it or should even try it. I normally associate jellies with sweet deserts but this is a fishy jelly. Urgh. Fish and chips = overrated. The fried fish tastes good as anything tastes good when you coat it in batter and deep fat fry it, the chips are just fries at the end of the day and it really isn't that unique. It'll be like an Asian person going all the way to the state of Kentucky for KFC when you can get good fried chicken anywhere.

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    16. Nobody comes to England for the food, this isn't Spain, Italy, Turkey, Thailand, Japan, Hong Kong, Vietnam, Greece or France where they have great cuisines.

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    17. Oh really? Not even a sauce on the eels? The Japanese seem to know how to cook eels very well. Lol yeah there's fish and chips in America too, or Australia, or Canada, anywhere the British have colonized. A couple of my friends are visiting London in May, and one of them said "there's no good food there, only Indian." I don't even like English breakfast all that much, the baked beans aren't that good of an addition even if there's bacon and eggs. I prefer shakshuka for breakfast, the Middle East actually has really good food.

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    18. Not traditionally no, at best you get a splash of vinegar and pepper but I'd hardly consider that to be a sauce really. Food in the UK is really very bland in nature.

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    19. Hey Alex. I'm at a crossroads in my career right now applying to jobs in both tech and finance. Both ask for similar skills and pay well into the top 10%, but finance is in the top 5% or higher when considering bonuses. The only issue is working hours. Tech is quite relaxed and many software/A.I engineers get away with only working 30 hours a week or less. Meanwhile, the quantitative finance recruiter told me she used to work 80 hours a week for the first 10 years when she was a quant in New York. Is this normal for finance? You work in sales but it sounds like your days of being a junior salesperson were also very cutthroat and busy. Does it get better the higher you get promoted? Lately I'm wondering whether to go for the maximum amount of money or the work life balance. Then there's the thing I'm passionate about (quantum computing) which pays slightly below the level of a software engineer but has 50-60 hour workweeks and the potential of stock options(high risk high reward I guess). I still maintain links with academia and startups in case I want to switch to quantum computing (or go there now). I just wonder if I'm gonna regret anything when I'm older, even though all three types of jobs pay enough to live on. I will probably get a good financial planner after I get a job regardless of what I choose, I'd like to have plenty of investments by the time I retire even though I'm still in my 20s.

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    20. Btw I thought this was a quirky video about the cost of living in Canada for two adults and two kids on a $100k/year salary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqyRp6pAwu8
      It basically says that most of that $8.3k/month salary goes to taxes $2.1k, rent and utilities $3.5k, food $1.3k, transport $500, leaving only $1k left in discretionary spending. Lol, a 6 figure salary feels rich to a single adult, but it can quickly feel barely enough to support 4 people with the extra rent, food, and transport. I see why you never had kids, cuz $100k/year is still above the bottom 80%, who would struggle even more to support a family of 4.

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    21. Amanda, the main reason why I don't want to have kids isn't financial - it is the emotional damage (ref: the latest post) I suffered at the hands of my Asian parents. It is perhaps very vindictive of me but the one thing they want anything more in the world, the one thing that will make them happier than anything else in the world is if I somehow had a son to carry on the family name and I take great pleasure in telling them "nope, I'm denying you the one thing you want - and there's absolutely nothing you can do about that." Modesty aside, my husband and I are on a LOT more than 100k a year and we're a lot richer than the couple in Canada in the video. But money has never been the issue, I just don't like the idea of the genetic lottery with children - you have no control over whether you have a bright or stupid kid and that's so scary. Like what would I do if I get a dumb kid? I would be a terrible parent. So there's a lot of emotional crap about my feelings about parenting that stems from my seriously fucked up childhood but money is never the issue cos I'm fucking rich.

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    22. Yeah, it sounds like you can't really fathom the concept of a happy family if you didn't grow up in one, and you also really don't want to run the risk of starting an unhappy family of your own. Understandable. I still have some hope of my own family because I had one good parent, but I'm so traumatized by all the financial problems my mom caused that I need to feel financially secure before even thinking of having a kid. Living on the margins is not for me, and I'm not gonna put myself there just by having a kid.

      It doesn't even take a dumb kid to cause you issues, this morning I read a story in the NYTimes about a mother who has a 14 year old daughter going through cancer treatment. Yeah cancer is rare in kids, but you have to be a person who is really looking forward to the positives of something to endure the possible negatives. And for someone like you, the positives just aren't in your mind. It's like how someone scared of water isn't in a rush to become a professional surfer anytime soon.

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    23. As for your other question, different companies have different kinds of work cultures - then you have stark differences between countries like Germany and the UK vs Singapore and the US. In Europe, we tend to work 30 hours max a week whilst in Singapore and the US, 60 to 80 hour a week have become the norm. So what is normal in America isn't normal in Germany or Sweden, you cannot compare this country to country and then again, a lot of it will depend on your supervisor and what you can get away with, what they expect of you and if you have a supervisor who puts in 80 hours a week, then you will have to at the very least match that. Would you be willing to work like that? I don't think I would but then again, it would very much depend on WHY you're working that hard. In my sister's case, they have a team of like 5 people doing a workload for 10 people, that's why they have such ludicrously long hours and that's just messed up and wrong on so many levels.

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    24. To be fair, that recruiter used to be a quant for one of the big banks. I should probably ask the interviewer what the work culture is before I commit to any offers. And no, I don't want to work like that... I'd rather work smart than work hard. Dunno if that's possible as a quant though, because there's just so much to code and so much data to sift through. But it could just be the US, we have the worst labor laws in all of the OECD, even worse than Sg by some measures like entitlement to sick-leave or maternity leave. By the way, an insurance company wants to fly me to their HQ all expenses paid for an A.I interview(still a remote job though). I don't know how legit they are because they're a new startup. That's fintech I guess? Since insurance is finance, but they want to incorporate A.I into it. Maybe I'll be scammed and murdered and this is the last you hear from me, but even D.E Shaw likes to fly in interviewees to New York for in-person interviews.

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    25. Well the closest I got to that was once I got invited to travel to another city to take part in an audition (so trains + overnight hotel) and I had plenty of time for sightseeing. I didn't get the part though but still I thought, yeah what have I got to lose and I get the chance to see another city?

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    26. Oh gosh I hope it's not a scam then, but if it is then I have other jobs I'm applying to. The excuse to travel would be nice. Oh that's nice they flew you out just for an audition, even if you didn't get the part. Usually they do videotape auditions if people can't travel, so that must've been a big deal.

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