Do you know when you exercise your judgment? |
I had a look at the CNA website and I think it might be Jaime Ho, chief editor of digital news who may have been caught sleeping at the wheel and allowed Dr Tan's article to be published. Or it could be a number of other editors, but I'm wondering why any editor in the right mind would publish an article like that? That's what I want to explore in today's post. Now the most obvious explanation is this: he probably simply thought "wow look at her fancy title at the university, of course she must be an expert, right? So she knows more about the topic than I do, I trust her." After all, wouldn't we want to live in a world where we can trust experts? Say you go see a doctor and get a prescription, wouldn't you just want to go to the pharmacy and get the medicines, rather than have to seek a second opinion or check online if that would be the right kind of medicine for you? We do trust professionals like doctors in such circumstances of course, so am I being really too demanding by expecting someone like Jaime Ho to double check the article that Dr Tan has submitted to his website? Well actually, yes - whilst an ordinary person who isn't a medically trained professional would find it quite hard to verify if a prescription is suitable (short of seeing another doctor or pharmacist), someone like Jaime Ho is a chief editor and it is indeed his job to check if the people he has engaged to write for his website are indeed doing a good job. Dr Tan was offered the chance to write an article on the basis of her credentials, but there's no reason why her work shouldn't be subjected to the same level of scrutiny - since we now know that she is actually a terrible writer.
In a recent article, I talked about how Papaoutai by Belgian singer Stromae is one of my favourite songs. It was released in 2013 and reached number one in both France and Belgium; it was the best-selling single in Belgium of 2013. Why is it such a controversial song? Well, it is a song of hatred and frustration: the title can be translated as "papa where are you?" Well it should be written as 'papa tu es ou' or 'papa ou es toi' in proper French but he squished it together as one word Papaoutai in a kind of baby-talk broken French. It is clear from the lyrics that Stromae hates his late father, oh the angst and anger expressed in the lyrics are painful: Hein ? Dites-nous qui, tiens; Tout le monde sait comment on fait des bébés. Mais personne sait comment on fait des papas. Monsieur « j’sais tout » en aurait hérité, c’est ça ? For those of you who don't speak French, here is the English translation: "hey, tell us who then, everybody knows how we make babies, but nobody knows how we make fathers. Mr 'know-it-all' would have inherited it all, is that it?" Many people did think this song was controversial (or even shocking and offensive) because they didn't want children singing a song about how much they hate their fathers, about how awful their fathers are. That is just a line many people refuse to cross. Well, that song struck a chord with me because I have a very cold and distant relationship with my parents. I stumbled upon an old article I had written out of frustration tonight and thought, damn my parents really behaved atrociously on that occasion. This is precisely why a song like Papaoutai strikes a chord with me - I can truly empathize with Stromae.
So in Asia, even if you are frustrated with your parents because they did something stupid, you're not meant to say that out aloud the way I did on my blog or at least avoid washing dirty linen in public because doing so would not only embarrass your parents but people would probably be unsympathetic as they will see you as being deeply disrespectful, having broken that social taboo. That probably explains the substantial amount of hate mail I get on a regular basis on my blog, but hey I can cope with that. When I was growing up in Singapore, it was drummed into my head that kids in the West show their parents no respect and would have the audacity to argue with their parents - that somehow this was an awful thing which makes their culture inferior to Chinese culture. Now don't get me wrong, I believe that children and parents should have a cordial, respectful, loving relationship - but that shouldn't be unconditional. Let's not underestimate how hard it is to forge any kind of meaningful social relationship and it does take a lot of hard work to make it good but if you were to simply assume, "oh my kids are going to respect me regardless, even if I treat them like shit" then it can lead to a very dysfunctional state of affairs. Mind you, that's why my parents continue to treat my sister like shit because she does offer them that unconditional respect regardless - hey, that's her choice and prerogative; she's a grown woman.
Here's the problem with the CNA case study with Dr Tan - users like me don't pay for content, I didn't have to pay a subscription to access that awful article written by Dr Tan. It makes money through their news channels that is widely watched across Asia and they do carry a lot of advertising both in their news channel and website; so if I am not a paying customer, then they really don't have to care if they disappoint or upset me with a bad article. Let's contrast this to the situation where I went for pizza this afternoon with two of my American friends - the pizzas were pretty okay, the service was a bit slow but overall, it wasn't so bad that I would complain or leave a bad review online. I was paying customer, so I had thus the right to make demands on the staff in terms of the quality of the food and service I was getting in the pizza restaurant. But imagine what you would do if you had a really bad experience at a restaurant - you would complain to the manager, you might refuse to pay for the meal if it was really awful or you might write a really bad review online if a staff member upset you just to warn other diners to avoid the place. Of course, restaurants know that even one unhappy customer can cause a lot of trouble, that's their incentive to try to make sure each customer has a good experience. The ideal situation is of course when the diners have a great experience: good food, friendly service and then goes on to recommend the restaurant to their friends. But note that this kind of good relationship in business is only possible with the threat of unhappy customers kicking up a huge fuss (and that in turn could potentially damage your future profits) - after all, you can't expect business to offer a good service if they are operating in a consequence-free environment.
Now, if I may clarify please: I don't hate my parents - I simply don't believe in putting them on a pedestal and offering them unconditional respect. There are two things I have to make clear about the situation with my parents. They are both severely autistic and even if you were to look past the autism, well, I can't find a delicate way to put this. They have below-average IQ, some people might use the word 'stupid' to describe them. These two factors makes any kind of relationship or interaction with them very challenging. So when they say or do something incredibly stupid or unreasonable, I usually remind myself of that they can't help it - the alternative would be just to take it personally and I don't do that. I tell myself they have an excuse to behave like that and that's the way I cope with the situation anyway - my sister would instead simply go into auto-pilot mode when it comes to my parents: she just accepts any bullshit or abuse they throw her way without once questioning it. I suppose in her mind, that's her understanding of what filial piety means and she is being a good person (and I have a one-way ticket to hell). I just don't see what I can possibly gain by having any kind of relationship with my parents, if all it will bring me is frustration, angst and disappointment - I just don't know how to fix that relationship where there was never ever any love to begin with. But the contrast between my sister's attitude and my attitude is really stark: I love and respect my sister, but it is evident that we're really very different people.
On the other hand though, he is after all a 15 year old, let's look at a situation which I faced when I was 15 years old. I had a terrible teacher in my school, he shall not be named but since he was my mathematics teacher, let's call him Mr Math. As an adult, in hindsight, I can look back and say, yeah he was terrible at his job but back then, there was little I could do about the situation. I had to do the subject and was expected to get good grades; I achieved this in spite of rather than because of Mr Math. But any kind of outright rebellion or even questioning his authority would get me into trouble with everyone from my parents to the school to even my peers - I'm afraid my fellow classmates did the very Singaporean thing and respected his authority whether or not he was a good teacher. Quite recently, Mr Math passed away and there was a huge outpouring of grief from his former students, there were tributes paid to him and as I read those tributes about what a great teacher he was, I did a double take. Hang on a minute, are we talking about the same person here? I had to double check his photo and the year he worked at the school and sure enough, it was the same person, the same terrible teacher Mr Math. Oh gosh, I remember how he totally failed me as a teacher - it was only with the help of my tuition teacher that I managed to achieve the grades I needed in mathematics. I was just shocked that so many of my former classmates remembered him so fondly, as if he was actually good at his job. I only regret not having met him again, because I waent to remind him that I was the boy who sucked at mathematics but I am earning millions working in corporate finance now - so how does that compare to the modest salary of a secondary school teacher eh?
Perhaps, but I doubt that they were that analytical about the situation back then - my guess is that they were so Singaporean that they were conditioned to offer unconditional respect to people like teachers, who were in a position of authority over them, even if they turned out to be terrible teachers. Perhaps they were no different from the poor puppy who remained extremely loyal to an abusive owner, because the puppy simply didn't have the mental capacity to deal with the complex situation otherwise. Short of literally asking them point blank, "how could you like Mr Math, don't you remember what a horrible teacher he was?" They would probably snap at me, "please lah, the man has just died, this is not the time to talk about this - show some respect!" You see, even if my Singaporean friends thought he was a bad teacher, they probably wouldn't dare to voice that opinion for fear that it would come across as disrespectful to someone in a trust position of authority - questioning his right to work as a teacher (well, because he was an utterly terrible teacher) shows that you don't have faith in the system that qualified him and put him there in the first place, it also questions the school's decision to have employed Mr Math as a teacher for so many years and so the moment you start questioning his ability to do his job, you're not just making it personal - you're literally taking on the entire system that has put him there in the first place. Therefore, most people would prefer to just keep their mouth shut and not risk upsetting or offending anyone. Mind you, I suppose the fact that I have declined to identify Mr Math makes me one of them as well.
Of course, asking him to exercise judgement like that is a big ask and it goes against every grain of the way he has been brought up. I also don't want him to abuse this right he has to question figures in authority - is he mature enough to handle it in a rational and sensible manner? I don't know. I don't think he's quite there yet, but what is the alternative? You can't treat him like a child and tell him to 乖乖听话 (be very obedient) for the rest of his life and blindly trust authority. I think everyone in my family is so keen to offer him guidance, to teach my nephew - but one thing I don't think they do enough of is actually allow him to make up his own mind on any issue. I find this particularly annoying (I'm not sure if my nephew is used to it or annoyed, but good grief it drives me nuts). Take a simple issue like adding sugar to breakfast tea. My mother insisted on adding sugar into my nephew's tea, I said no way, that's so unhealthy and it'll make him fat. Did I stop her from adding sugar to the tea? Yes, but instead I turned to my nephew and said, "the sugar is there, if you want to add it, I won't stop you but I don't think you should as it is not good for your health." So my nephew came to the very sensible solution and said, "how about if I just added a little sugar, so it is just a bit sweet but not too unhealthy?" The boy is intelligent and sensible enough to figure out most things, if only my parents would stop treating him like a complete idiot incapable of exercising any judgement. Heck, he's a lot more intelligent than my parents, thankfully he isn't stupid.
So you see, it isn't enough to be intelligent - I'm sure someone like Jaime Ho is very intelligent and capable, yet even seemingly highly skilled, intelligent professionals can end up making bad decisions because of poor judgement. What are we teaching our children these days? We pressure them so much to do well in their studies, but it is one thing to learn how to answer questions in an exam (particularly in subjects where there is one 'right answer') - but what about these confusing, imperfect situations in life where there isn't a right or wrong answer, when all you can do is exercise your judgement when dealing with flawed individuals? The thing is that this kind of judgement simply cannot be taught in a classroom by a teacher - instead, it's the only thing you can learn by actually making such judgement calls (right or wrong, good or bad) over and over again until you get good at it. I'll compare it to swimming: I can explain to you exactly how you need to move your body in order to propel yourself forwards whilst staying afloat in the water, we can spend many hours talking about which methods are most efficient but until you actually get into the swimming pool and start trying to swim, you're never going to learn how to actually swim. What do you think? How can we help young Singaporeans learn how to exercise their own judgement call? How did we end up in this situation with highly educated Singaporean professionals with such bad judgement despite not being stupid? Is this something we can fix and if so, how? How did we end up in this situation in the first place? Please leave a comment below, many thanks for reading.
I'm just wondering if you guys generally trust what you see on CNA? Or is it full of propaganda bullshit?
ReplyDeleteI tend to watch/read a little of CNA for foreign news, since they offer a subtly different perspective than that of Western news and there's less limitations placed on them.
DeleteI can't even bring myself to read local news it's not just that it's propaganda, it's also very poorly written. It's like they don't care anymore.
Yup, that's kinda what I expected - thanks for your answer.
DeleteIt's not so much about whether you subscribed to their service or not. Even if you subscribed to their service, if any, your subscription fee is miniscule.
DeleteNews outlets are funded by advertisements. They'll mostly, not always, publish information which benefit the industries funding them. It's just good business.
Retail investors and consumers don't spend money advertising. They're not taken into consideration.
Out of curiosity's sake, what is that fake news article your father was talking about?
ReplyDeleteI can't remember the details - it was a very pro-PAP 'ownself check ownself' type article where they were indulging in lavish self-praise about what the fabulous job the PAP are doing. I knew it wasn't proper journalism, it was practically propaganda in your face - I could only call it fake news as it was at best, the opinion of one PAP loving journalist.
DeleteAll the editors were selected from ISA to be PAP loving no surprises there. Which is why I only read it to have a good laugh, not for actual information.
DeleteTalking about crappy CNA articles take a look at this gem here:
ReplyDeletehttps://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/commentary/gender-equality-equal-pay-singapore-work-cpf-life-savings-10877958
Already I disagree with the writer's premise that "...men and women have equal opportunities to education and jobs?"
Firstly men, including yourself surely, has to sacrifice all educational opportunities at the age of 18 to enter NS and then be stuck with the ICT for the following 10 years of up to 40 days every year. Then, they don't get to take 16 weeks (or more) of fully paid maternity leave whenever they have a new born child. Males get 2 weeks and that was only started last year before that zilch, zero, nada.
The writer goes on to mention that males earn more than females in all job catergories except clerical (she is apparently fine with this inequality) but doesn't mention that lifestyle choices like having multiple kids and working on a part-time basis (which happens to be one of the practices I observed at my current workplace) likely contribute to this wage difference.
Then goes on to make this motherhood statement: "Gendered social norms that inherently devalue women’s labour, and lack of policies that require employers to offer equal pay for equal work. In the workplace, women continue to face additional barriers - including gender bias, both conscious and unconscious, which result in unequal opportunities, choices and outcomes." I can't even wrap my head around such crazy feminazi logic so won't attempt to do so.
"It is easy to dismiss some of these claims as uncommon, after all Manpower Ministry statistics show only 57 pregnancy-related unfair dismissals in 2016." What about guys getted dismissals or overlooked for promotions due to ICT? This is definitely not uncommon and under-reported.
"...providing care to children and elderly, and household chores, is still considered a female responsibility." Blame government policy, she failed to mention the difference in paid leave after birth of new child.
"It is not that women are deliberately choosing low-paying jobs but that the jobs they do are valued less than the jobs that men do." It is a choice. In more egalitarian societies like Sweden and Norway the differences are more stark. But feminists often overlook this fact.
"...the Singapore Government should disallow unequal remuneration for equal work in all sectors of the economy." Not going to happen but I welcome it! All the unpaid menial and dirty work guys do like moving heavy loads and plugging in cables under desks has to be compensated somehow.
"The provision of free childcare, increased investments in eldercare infrastructure, more flexible working arrangements, and paid family care leave are some measures known to reduce adverse labour outcomes for women." The writer finally gets to the point of her article. She wants free handouts from the government but who is going to fund it? She is asking for these handouts in the guise of talking about gender inequality of wages (doesn't exist).
At my previous workplace a financial institution (I've since quit to work out my own dreams), my teammates (mostly Sinkies) believe professional advice and conventional wisdom wholesale without questioning. That is to say, from authority figures.
ReplyDeleteThe odd thing one of the reasons the CEO-founder of the company (a public listed company) succeeded in the first place is defying his parents. They wanted him to be a doctor. Of course there were other reasons for his success: knowing the right people, having the initial capital, taking the chance when the opportunity presented itself.
But still, why would the employees think they can succeed in life by obeying elder figures, where the CEO obviously succeeded by disobeying his elders?
Thanks for your comment Joe. You're right, some people will only be foot soldiers if following commands is all they can do. We can't all be 5-star generals, every general needs a troop of foot-soldiers to command. Hence that's the natural order of society.
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