Monday, 26 July 2021

Two weeks into the new job, how is it going?

Hi guys, normally I would take summer off and go traveling but in light of the fact that I have started a new job and I've already had a trip to Portugal at the beginning of June and a short break to the English countryside the week before I started by job, I'm actually focusing on my new job at the moment. So I have decided to share some of my experiences here about the new chapter in my life; it has not been easy and so I don't wanna pretend that it's been all smooth sailing. 

Pantry? No no no. Simply dial 1025 for coffee. 

Here's how well they treat their staff at this company: on my very first day, I looked around the office for a pantry-like kitchen area, where I could make myself a cup of coffee - there wasn't one. So my colleague helpfully said, "oh we don't make our own coffee here, simply pick up the office phone, dial 1025 and that will connect you through to room service - here, have a look at the menu. The coffee is always good." I was then handed a full room service menu with everything from breakfast to the finest steaks to dim sum - I started out modestly with an iced coffee but was assured, "just order whatever you want, we don't you to go hungry." You've heard about companies like Google feeding their employees really well? Yeah, this is indeed the case here. I am slowly working my way through the menu and some items have been better than others, but the Singaporean in me hasn't been disappointed by the Asian food on the menu. I just have to watch myself as it is so tempting to order one iced coffee after another then I could end up drinking way too much coffee.

I am working from home 2-3 days a week. 

I have a good relationship with my new boss who actually lives in the north of England where he runs another company. So when he is in the north of England, I work from home but when he is in London, I will join him in the office. It kinda suits me fine - whilst I like the experience of working in an office again after such a long lockdown, I also like getting that extra hour's sleep in the morning and having the luxury of taking a cheeky afternoon nap after lunch when I am working from home. Apart from the room service, there is air-conditioning at the office which is quite a relief as summer temperatures here in London have exceeded 30 degrees this week and I don't have air-conditioning at home - summer temperatures here can vary quite a lot. One day, you can get 34 degrees than the next day it can be just 17 degrees. This is unlike say places in Spain  and Italy where you know the temperatures is going to exceed 30 degrees everyday during the summer months - this does give me an incentive to go into the office, even on the days when my boss isn't in. 

So what does your company do?  

Contract arbitrage - it is a rather technical topic that I won't bore you with, do have a read here if you're really interested. 

How did you find this job? 

I found it through Linkedin but allow me to give you the full story: yes there is a jobs section on Linkedin but I didn't use that. Heck, there are literally a zillion things you can do on Linkedin and I'm barely using 20 to 25% of it all, probably less. I connected with my new boss there because we have over 500 mutual contacts. This is why it is so important to keep networking as you never know when a new contact could turn out to be immensely useful - he invited me round for a coffee to meet him and his team, so I thought, okay why not? They're in London and I was in lockdown then, it was just fun to go meet someone in person rather than just do yet another Zoom call. So I went to do that meeting to talk about a possible collaboration with that company but that never came to fruition but out of that meeting came a job offer which I politely declined, given that I was reasonably happy in my previous job earlier this year. But when I was elbowed out of my old job, this was one of the three companies that came forth with a serious job offer and I have already talked about why I picked this company in a previous post. But yes, this goes to show the value of networking on Linkedin! Do make sure you always keep your Linkedin profile updated and use it to expand your network of professional contacts within your industry - I can't stress how important Linkedin is to your career and make sure you invest in building your network! 

How does it feel to switch jobs after having stayed with your former company for so long? 

Oh to be honest, yeah I felt nervous but that was really only for the first few days. In my old job, I knew exactly what to do, I was relaxed, the job was easy for me - I could do everything I needed to do with my eyes closed. But when you change jobs, there is always a steep learning curve. Then of course, with that unfamiliarity comes the possibility to make mistakes - I've made a few minor admin errors so far, nothing major and no one's upset or angry with me yet, but these are the rookie mistakes that I would have never ever made in my old job. But by and large, the clients have been understanding when I admit to them, "I don't know the answer, I'm quite new to all of this, so let me ask my boss to clarify and I'll get back to you very soon once I have the right answer for you." Actually the clients would rather I be totally honest with them than to make a wild guess when I don't know. I do hope that this transition period is temporary of course and I would soon become a lot more competent, but in the meantime, the rest of my colleagues have been quite accommodating so far. But of course, I believe it is important to challenge yourself, to put yourself in a position like this in order to grow and become a better person. My father was a primary school teacher and his job didn't really change much at all from the day he started work to the day he finally retired - he still walked into the classroom at the primary school and delivered the lessons and he did that for nearly 40 years. Good grief, surely being asked to do the same task day after day for 40 years is extremely boring to say the least so that's why I'm taking these new challenges in the right spirit. 

More business trips are on the cards (in the future, when possible).

That's why one major attraction for me in this company is to learn something new and be jolted out of my comfort zone. The directors also did a lot of traveling as well - so here's an example of how they traveled: before the pandemic hit and global travel was a lot easier, the company managed to get a big client in Mauritius. So what did they do? Two of the directors jumped on a plane and flew to Port Louis in Mauritius just to meet him and when I heard that story, I was like, "hey I would have loved to have done that and on top of that, I speak French - Mauritius is a French-speaking country!" I have no doubt that they would start traveling again once it is possible to do so, quite frankly, I've done my share of holidays where I turn up somewhere, I go sightseeing, I do the usual fun stuff and don't get me wrong, that's all very pleasant of course and I still intend to do many more holidays like that. But a business trip is a totally different kind of experience - oh I think it's sour grapes when people claim, "oh I am just traveling there for business, it's not a holiday". I recall my trip to Shenzhen which was a 'business trip' but we were the guest of the Chinese government and the team responsible for welcoming us took such incredibly good care of us there. I have happy memories of my time in Shenzhen and one of the highlights of the trip was the interactions I had with the local team taking care of us - when I go on holiday with my husband, we normally just stick to each other and sometimes we chat with our AirBNB host but that's it. I do enjoy forging relations with the locals when on a business trip - that kind of experience is actually a lot of fun and I get paid for it? Now that is a good deal, in my humble opinion and it does give me something to look forward to in the future. 

Are you using your foreign languages?

In my last post, I did talk about focusing on what I do best but what if my skills aren't that useful? I speak many languages and we're living in a world where the language of business is English - take for instance this afternoon, I was dealing with a client in Turkey. English is not widely spoken there, but amongst the business elite, the ability to speak English fluently is worn as a badge of honour. It demonstrates that you are highly educated, sophisticated and do business with the world outside Turkey whilst an old lady who works in a small shop deep in the Turkish countryside will never deal with foreigners and hence she would never need to speak any English. I am still dealing with the Taiwanese market and my Mandarin is still better than their English, so those conversations will always be in Mandarin. To reflect on how English has come to become the global lingua franca, I am currently watching a Polish series called Zasada Przyjemności - it is really good, a couple of dead bodies show up in Odessa (Ukraine), Warsaw (Poland) and Prague (Czech Republic) at the same time. As the police from these three cities start investigating the murders, more people are killed and the killings are all linked. There are a couple of other characters as well including an Austrian, some Russians and a Lithuanian. So in the end, we have Polish Maria, Czech Viktor and Ukrainian Sergei working together to try to solve this series of murders but what language do they speak to understand each other? English of course, with a thick Eastern European accent. They make absolutely no attempt to speak each other's languages and just default to English. Whilst the drama is intriguing, I'm just frustrated that the programme contains so much English, sometimes more than half the episode is in English, rather than these other languages, but such is Europe today - English is so widely spoken. 

Let me tell you about young 'Dave'. 

I think the most interesting person I've met so far is a young guy (let's call him Dave - not his real name) who is about 24 and he is on our sales team - we have a big network of sales agents on a commission only basis working for us, getting our products out there to the world and Dave is one of our sales agents. I have it on good authority that on a good month, he can make £500,000 or so just in commissions and he doesn't even need to work full time to rake in a few million pounds a year, it is just an insane amount of money we're talking about. The thing about Dave is that I have to really suspend all my preconceptions, go eat an entire humble pie and then tell myself, "this guy is earning much more than you, how the hell does he do it?" I don't know if he went to university but certainly no degree in the world can prepare you to do sales like that. He is monolingual and only speaks English - there's nothing that remarkable about him when you meet him. But the key thing about sales is that everyone does it their way, we use whatever tools we have in our arsenal to make the sale. Clearly, Dave and I have different tools to use, that's why we have very different approaches to how we do sales. But nonetheless, his results speak for themselves - that's why I am so impressed and shocked at the same time, it makes me want to learn from him. Had I been back at my old job, I would have assumed, "yeah I've been doing this for so many years, I'm the expert, I know everything." But meeting Dave and observing him makes me realize that actually, there's still a lot I can learn, there are still so many ways I can improve myself and do my job even better. I may not be able to do what Dave does but I appreciate the reminder he is sending me to always have a very humble attitude. 

Dealing with cynicism 

Oh this has been something that took me quite by surprise! Allow me to put it this way: there are very simple investment products and there are complex ones. Let me give you an example of a simple investment proposition: this company makes cookies and they are already have ten factories across the country making cookies; business is good and they wish to expand. However, to expand, they need more capital to set up more factories, invest in machinery and hire more staff -  so if you invest in this company, you're effectively lending them money for their expansion plans, knowing that they are able to pay you a good rate of return on your investment since their business is doing really well. It's a simple story to tell: everyone knows what cookies are, you can go down to the supermarket and buy a pack of this company's cookies and eat them - you could even visit their factory, see how the product is made and whilst you're there, you can smell the aromas of the freshly baked cookies and taste them. However, with the complex world of arbitrage, you couldn't get further removed from something as simple as cookies: we're not actually making any products that you can hold in your hands like a packet of biscuits. Traders make vast profits and it is just numbers on a screen - this tends to be the point where cynicism kicks in: how does it all work? How is it possible to make millions simply by sitting at a computer and making trades based on contract arbitrage? It's not an easy concept to understand and some people prefer simpler investment propositions the aforementioned cookie factory: it is your money - you invest in whatever you are happy with. 

How do you deal with stuff you don't understand?

But what do some people do when they don't understand how contract arbitrage works? I have been dealing with a ridiculous amount of cynicism. "It's just a scam, I don't believe your business model can deliver this kind of returns." Now don't get me wrong, there are a ton of scams out there in the financial services at the moment and it is right to be prudent when dealing with any proposition. I would even go as far as to say that if you don't understand how it works, then it is important to seek professional advice the same way you wouldn't try to self-diagnose and self-medicate if you were feeling very unwell - no, in such a situation, you need to go see a doctor. But some of the people have relied on their own (limited) understanding of economics and banking to try to understand how contract arbitrage works, so their response is, "I don't understand it, so I will dismiss it as just a scam." Is everything that you don't understand a scam? Practically everyone has a smart phone these days, I don't know how the complex electronic mechanisms in my phone works, but I do know what it can do for me. I don't have a problem using an electronic device like a smart phone whilst openly admitting I am an absolute idiot when it comes to electronic engineering. The very same people who claimed that what my company does is a scam are the same people who have no idea how their smart phones work, yet they are still happily using their smart phones everyday - that's a major blind spot in my humble opinion. At the heart of that reaction is poor social skills: this tendency to only consider matters only from one's point of view, this is what they call navel gazing. 

The inevitable office politics. 

You'd think that I would have stepped into this new company with a bit more awareness on this issue but no, I was naive and thought that it was a fairly small company, everyone's friendly. But even in just two weeks I've dealt with my share of office politics. Now it would be inappropriate for me to share individual stories here but let's just say some of the things I have encountered did take me by surprise. I would look at an incident and think, "that's not how I would have dealt with it, I would have handled it in a different manner to achieve a better outcome." One way to look at it is that not everyone has my kind of social skills and thus have reacted differently - but I do take comfort in one aspect of the business: none of that matters as much as how much money you can make for the company. There is this guy the company deals with, let's call him Mr Bleugh (not his real name and I can't be asked to give him a normal sounding name). Mr Bleugh makes the company a lot of money but has some personality flaws that I shall not go into, lest I accidentally identify him. I know that in private conversations amongst the staff, they have said some rather unpleasant things about him and it suffices to say that they don't like him but hey, everyone puts their personal feelings aside, forces a smile and deals with Mr Bleugh because he is good for business and everyone shares the same objective to make loads of money - that's how practical and pragmatic they are in the real world, money and profits always come first. So I have used this saying before and I'll use it again, "I'm here to make money not friends and if you don't like me, that's fine by me - I can live with that as long as I get paid on time. Besides I already have many good friends in my life so I don't need my new colleagues to like me." 

So there you go, that's it from me for now. I think I will check in with you again in a few more weeks and let you know how I am getting along in this new job. Overall, it has been challenging but I would be naive to imagine that it would be super easy for the first few weeks - I'm realistic enough to know that it would be very difficult to hit the ground running. Such is the nature of changing jobs! Wish me luck please guys. Do leave a comment below please and many thanks for reading. 

27 comments:

  1. I just remembered reading your article written a while ago and you said you were self-employed. I wonder if you have set up your own company in the past and if that often happened in the financial world as long as you can prove to help your clients make money.

    Are the school teachers in Singapore that bad that you don't speak highly of your parents (teacher's income, attitude to life etc.)? Going to become a secondary geography teacher, I hope to not get involved too much in office politics!

    And great to see in the article that you are part of the LGBTQ group too. I hope your relationship has not suffered during the lockdown like mine. I have been living in the car for more than 6 weeks!

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    1. Hi Ray. Allow me to respond to the points you have raised.

      1. Yes I was self-employed since 2004 and this is the first time in 17 years I have become an employee again. It's quite a shock to the system but my reasons for being self-employed back then was because I wanted to have the freedom and flexibility to do a lot of different projects, control my working hours and take loads of holidays. But now, the number of freelance projects available have dried up (because of Covid) and traveling for holidays is quite limited at this point of time because of the pandemic again, so I reckon I may as well be productive and work full time, make loads of money to a) store up for my retirement and b) spend on lovely things like nice holidays when I can do that again.

      2. I have set up my own company in the past but that was not in finance, that was in IT back in 2016. It's a lot easier to work with a reputable company in the world of finance because people want to know that they're not just dealing with you but if you get hit by a bus tomorrow and die on the spot, there's an entire company of competent experts ready to handle your account. I hate to be morbid but that's the challenge self-employed people face in this world. There's a guy called Fergus handling my account in the platform which manages my wealth - he's a lovely guy but if he gets killed in a road accident this afternoon, I have confidence that his colleagues will still continue managing my wealth there even without Fergus. This is why it is important to be a part of a team - your credibility is based on how your team performs very well like a machine, rather than "hey I am brilliant." The 'I am brilliant' approach is very Asian I'm afraid, it's this expectation that if we do well in our exams the world will reward us but that's not the case in the real world, it certainly isn't the case in the business world.

      3. Singapore has gotta have the worst possible education system in the world. So it's not just "that bad", it's fucked up, it's seriously fucked up, it's fucking awful. I don't know how much more FUCKING swearing I have to use to convey to you just how low my opinion is of the Singaporean education system. I'm not a huge fan of the British system either but when you're comparing it to the most fucked up system in the world, it's hard to do any worse. My parents are seriously fucked up - they were fucking awful parents and were fucking awful teachers, did I mention that they are fucked up? Like seriously. I don't know how much more swearing I have to do before you understand that there's no ambiguity in the way I feel about a) my parents and b) the Singaporean education system. Like when I say things are fucked up, I'm rating is a 0/10 only because I can't give it a negative score.

      4. As for office politics, all I can say is good luck. What I have learnt is that even with the best social skills in the world, you may still end up dealing with people with poor social skills and that's when their problem becomes yours if you have to work with them and deal with them on a daily basis.

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    2. 5. My husband has been very patient with me during the lockdown when I have been more emotionally stressed out. Working from home back then meant us being in each other's faces 24/7 during the lockdown and that has been stressful at times. But now that things have returned to normal, I'm glad to report that we're good thank you. I'm very sorry to hear that you're stuck in your car, I hope things can be resolved quickly for you.

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  2. Wish you all the best! Thanks for sharing your experience with the new job. A good reminder to us who might be entering similar phase of our career. I don't think you were naive, but just hoping for the best.

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    1. Thank you. You know the saying, "hope for the best, expect the worst" - I should have had that attitude. I wouldn't say that things are bad per se, I am working very autonomously. So for example, if I am working from home and I wanna take the morning off to watch some Tokyo Olympics, I just work into the evening and get the work done later. My boss really doesn't care how I work as long as I get the job done at the end of the day and he trusts me. That's good of course, but it's the office politics that has been challenging because when you're dealing with other people, you're not in control of the way they wanna behave and think. It won't be appropriate for me to talk about the specifics, but even if I think I've done absolutely nothing wrong, I still have no control over the way other people behave if they have poor social skills. Such is office politics for you - there are some things that are simply just out of your control like that.

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    2. Since you are a gymnast, I am sure you are paying attention to the fury expressed by netizens over Hashimoto's win. Would be good to hear your view.

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    3. Since you are a gymnast, I am sure you are paying attention to the fury expressed by netizens over Hashimoto's win. Would be good to hear your view.

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    4. Aaaah now you're onto my specialist subject. OK I think this is controversial because China has been hit by these 0.3 technical deduction twice already in these Olympics. Once was during the team finals when a gymnast Zou Jingyuan didn't start his routine on time (you're given 10 seconds to mount the apparatus once you're given the green light), though I thought that was really questionable because he began his mount sequence already but his hands didn't touch the apparatus before the 10 seconds limit was up - I thought that was harsh but in Xiao Ruoteng's case, he didn't salute the judges before starting his routine and I thought again, very harsh. If a gymnast from a country like Venezuela or Egypt did it, the judges would probably say, "no big deal, we're not going to deduct you on that but please remember not to make that mistake again as it could be costly." But in a final where a medal is at stake and margins are razor thin, gymnastics scores go up to three decimal places and so every 0.001 counts. The best example of this was from 2005 in the world championships in Melbourne where American Chellsie Memmmel won the title by a margin of 0.001 over her compatriot Nastia Liukin - you can imagine how Liukin felt losing by the smallest margin in the history of gymnastics, the smallest margin possible in gymnastics. So when you can win/lose over 0.001, hitting a gymnast with a 0.3 deduction is a massive psychological blow. The judges had the right to do this but it was incredibly harsh IMHO.

      Notably, this isn't the first time it happened. In the 1988 Seoul Olympics, the East German women's team only won the bronze after they protested over a seemingly stupid rule that the American team made whilst waiting for their turn to perform. Details will follow in part 2 below.

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    5. OK this is taken from Wikipedia but it's a clear case of #youhadonejob - the USA women's gymnastics team lost the bronze in 1988 because of a technical rule, a mistake made by a gymnast who was an alternate Rhonda Faehn: she never competed in the Olympic events, her presence led to a controversial ruling that cost the U.S. the bronze medal. As an alternate, Faehn remained on the podium after removing the springboard that Kelly Garrison-Steves used to mount the uneven bars. A Code of Points rule bans coaches from remaining on the podium as an athlete competes. Although Faehn was not a coach, the presiding judge, Ellen Berger – an East German – invoked the rule and penalized the Americans five-tenths of a point, causing them to finish fourth behind East Germany and knocking them out of medal contention.

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  3. "Singapore has gotta have the worst possible education system in the world."

    I would agree more with you if you replace the word society for education.

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  4. Since you aren't in control of how other people choose to behave, just focus on optimizing your time with what you're good at: your job.

    Sidetrack, interesting article from Guardian on FT columnist turned econ teacher:

    https://www.theguardian.com/education/2021/jul/14/leaving-burnout-behind-the-pain-and-pleasure-of-starting-a-new-career-in-my-50s

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    1. Hiya thanks for your comment. I'm trying my best to deliver results at my job and it's been challenging to say the least to ignore the social aspect - there's a strong drinking culture in my company and yesterday, they got drunk at the pub whilst I was stone cold sober watching the Olympics on TV in the pub. A lot of people might say, "what the hell are you complaining about, you spent your Friday afternoon in the pub watching TV whilst some of us were doing real work?!" It takes confidence to be able to say, "yeah I'm different in so many, many ways: I'm gay and Asian to begin with. I'm nothing like you guys but you want me on my team cos I am really good at what I do." Well, I've just started here so I am still like an unproven entity until I start delivering results. I have no desire to try to fit in or blend in by joining in with their drinking, that's something I'll never ever do, but I'll feel a lot more confident and comfortable about being so freaking different once I deliver good results at work (hopefully in a month or two).

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  5. Hey Alex. How's the company culture at your new job? You did mention somewhere in the comments that the others like to drink together while you prefer to stay sober and watch the Olympics. Do the others also only work a few days a week in the office? Sorry I haven't been replying sooner, I had a major deadline at work.

    So how often do you work with Dave? I'm curious what his work history is, how did he get this job so young?

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    1. Hi Amanda, the one aspect of the company culture that I am struggling somewhat with is the amount of networking and social activity done involving alcohol. I don't drink alcohol at all, I'm completely teetotal, so it's always a bit strange to see those around you become increasingly drunk whilst I remain completely sober. Some of our clients drink a lot too but the first client meeting I had with a client I brought to the office, he was offered the drinks menu and he asked for green tea - but I'm quite happy to be different. I don't feel the need to fit in by joining in the drinking; after all, I'm gay, I'm Asian, I'm an immigrant, I'm already different in so many ways but there's this quiet confidence in the way I do things, like I know I am so extremely different from all these other white British people but I'm there because I'm so good at what I do and they should trust me to let me do things my way - that includes choosing not drinking if I don't wanna. The other tend to work 2 to 4 days a week in the office, it varies.

      I don't actually cross paths with Dave much, he works very autonomously but I did find out that his father is very, very, very rich and thus from a young age, he's quite used to being around influential people in banking, it doesn't faze him at all. And I just rolled my eyes and thought, why am I not surprised? This is why the rich stay rich and the poor get poorer. Given how rich his father is, I'm not surprised he managed to get to where he is so quickly, daddy probably made a few phone calls to get him his first job so he had quite a head start compared to people like me.

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    2. Oh I get what you mean by being a bit uncomfortable with the socialization between coworkers. But thankfully you have good enough social skills to navigate not wanting to fit in. I feel sometimes I get peer pressured into doing things I don't want because fitting in is easier than not fitting in, less explaining to do. But it probably only takes explaining in a nice way "sorry, this isn't my thing, but yall enjoy yourselves!" and other ways to show people you are a friendly personable coworker to avoid the "sticking out penalty."

      Ahh okay... I wouldn't say its just the phone calls to get a decent first job, although that helps a lot. His father probably also shared with him the secrets to making good money.

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    3. It's not like anyone has put pressure on me to do anything I didn't want to do - on Friday, I simply had enough but lied, I claimed that a client has just sent me an email requesting a certain document that I can only access on the office computer, so I had to return to the office to handle that. But it was a lie, I was just bored and wanted to leave the pub. There are only so many glasses of juice I could drink there before I got totally bored - but I don't think I would be 'penalized' for refusing to join in and I believe that as long as I do my job well, the staff there will be okay with me being so different from them. That's all the matters (ref: Mr Bleugh), I can't give any specific details but they still treat Mr Bleugh so nicely for a simple reason: he brings in a lot of business.

      As for Dave's father, I think it's a question of confidence as well. His father probably told him, "there's no reason why you can't make 10 million a year before you turn 25, that's what you should be aiming for." Whereas my working class parents had a very working class mentality, ie. people like us (ie. working class = the scum of society) don't deserve to become rich, don't deserve to become successful, so we should just do something that's considered an 'iron rice bowl' so we will have a stable income, even if that income is pitifully small but as long as it is regular, then that's good enough for working class folks. It's a far cry from what Dave's father would have told him. That's why I'm trying to help a working class friend of mine - long story, he's young so he can still change his life. He's my unofficial Welsh teacher, once I got an audition for a big part in a Welsh drama series and I had only just befriended him on Facebook through a mutual friend begging him for help. "They're just emailed a script and it's 20 pages, it's all in Welsh, I need a coach please - I really want this part." So my friend came over after work and the first time we met, he gave me a 4 hour Welsh lesson and helped me through the script. That's how kind he is and when you're so kind to me, you've got a friend for life. He's from a poor working class family - never took his education seriously, the moment he did enough schooling he worked for a local supermarket and still works in a supermarket today. But he isn't stupid - he's good with people, he's an exceptionally nice person with great social skills. That's why I want to get him a job in my industry to prove a point - that I can give someone like that a job and he can make 5 million a year too, that jobs like that are not just for super rich kids like young Dave.

      I recently found out that a friend of mine had her daughter do 'work experience' in a financial consultancy in London - she did so little there but she now gets to say, "I interned at this top banking consulting firm." It's only because her mother got her the internship, nothing to do with her ability and I met the young lady - she was polite and well-mannered, but there was nothing exceptional about her apart from the fact that her mother knew people. This is the reason why I am determined to turn my Welsh friend into a millionaire - even if it is just to create yet another brilliant story for my blog to inspire others who have poor working class parents like me. Watch this space.

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    4. Yeah it would be pretty stupid to treat an employee worse for not participating in social activities considering the money involved. A lot of other industries simply don't pay as much to let that slide. Like when you told me you knew people who had Onlyfans and their employers didn't care as long as they made lots of money.

      Yeah I heard mentorships, unrelated people nurturing the careers of others, is the pathway for talented rather than rich kids to make it in life. But it relies on complete strangers to volunteer their time to do so, so part of the difficulty is simply connecting these individuals together. Usually this occurs in a university, but there is still an upper class bias at uni. That friend of yours who speaks good Welsh had a very chance encounter with you, imagine if they had met a different actor auditioning for that welsh part. Meanwhile rich kids have access to mom and dad's connections since birth, they don't have to be talented to access them either.

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    5. Well Owain and I have a mutual friend on FB - it all started with Owain leaving a comment on our mutual friend's photo, I thought, oh he must be Welsh given that he has such a Welsh sounding name. So I just messaged him out of the blue like that and asked if he was a Welsh-speaking Welshman and he said yes, then I said, oooh may I add you as a friend? He said go ahead, so that's how we became friends. It was entirely a chance meeting online via a mutual friend's Facebook post. But he has shown me kindness and I kinda feel like he has been denied certain opportunities in life because of his working class background - he isn't stupid, he is just too working class in his mindset and let's face it, without all the favours that the rich kids get from their parents and their family connections, they would be floundering as well in the working world. That's why I wanted to see if I could use Owain almost as a social experiment - if I could take someone like that and give the kind of opportunities he never had, then train him up to do something like young Dave is doing, so he too can become ridiculously rich. It's a social experiment and even if I do fail, at least I will have material for my blog.

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    6. Y'know your social experiment sounds like it has been proven successful many times in academia already. In fact I think last year or the year before some economists from MIT won the Nobel prize in economics for their work on social mobility. Raj Chetty did a lot of interesting analysis regarding the effect of a college education on social mobility using anonymized tax return data of people, their parents, grandparents, etc. Of course it's a law of averages so if we take 10k working class kids and give them the same amount of resources as rich kids then the same percent will go on to lucrative careers as the rich kids. For an individual its hard to predict, but one thing is clear Owain does deserve the help since due to being working class he has had less help than even the average middle class person in the UK. And since you don't have any children of your own to manage the career of (your kids would be automatic "rich kids" haha), then why not help Owain and others from a similar background.

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    7. So how would you get Owain on the banking career ladder? Is there some kind of starter job he can work his way up from, or do you plan to recommend him to interview for a graduate job that someone from Oxbridge might go for and charm his way through it?

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    8. Owain never had the opportunities that the rich kids had so that's why he ended up where he was, but how do I intend to get him started in banking? Well I have identified a firm that is small and growing, they are in a position to take on new staff and what they do is so so niche and specialist that no degree in the world would be an advantage. Thus this conveniently puts Owain on a level playing field with everyone else applying for a job there but what Owain does have going for him is a personal recommendation from me and I hope to place him in a sales & sales support/customer service role to begin with, so he can draw upon the years of experience he has working in a supermarket and have some transferable skills that will allow him to excel at his job. The fact is someone with his background will be rejected out of hand for a graduate job for a simple reason: he has no degree, he never went to university. Working class parents like his parents would have said to him, "university is not for people like us, you're done with schooling, now go out and get a job at the local supermarket." No he's going to need me to literally convince the employer "this guy is brilliant, you'll be sorry if you don't give him a chance. You can pay him half of what you would normally pay someone to do this job and he would be so grateful for the opportunity he would thank you by making it all work out - poor folks like that don't have rich parents to fall back on, if he leaves his current job to work for you, he will do whatever it takes to make it a successful move." Then again, how is that different from the way rich parents pull strings to get their kids jobs? So in short, I've identified a job, in a company where I know the boss and I have been convincing the boss to hire Owain already. People like Owain need more help than you think to get started but he doesn't have parents who can do anything to help him - thus that's why I am stepping to offer that help given that a) my own parents did absolutely nothing for me in this regard and b) I don't have kids of my own to help, so I may as well help the people I care about, people who have shown me kindness so I am merely returning a favour.

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    9. Dude you're like a one-man talent scout/talent agent. Kinda reminds me of what acting agents do in finding parts for their clients to audition for, except this is for banking. That sounds like a brilliant plan, I didn't think of using the fact that a poor kid is more grateful for opportunities and will work much harder in their first job than a rich kid. I think Owain wouldn't mind the lower salary as long as it's above what he is currently paid working at a supermarket. And he could use the work experience to find a job with a more standard salary later.

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    10. Would I be able to get Owain a job in a top investment bank? No, that's why I very specifically selected a small company outside London that's growing rapidly, doing something so niche within financial services that will be less fussy about selecting only the top graduates - it's a foot in the door for Owain really, to open his eyes up to people like young Dave and realize, "if he is making £500,000 a month, what is he doing? What's stopping me from aiming that high and trying to make that kind of money as well?" I can bring the horse to water but whether or not Owain will blossom in that environment and turn into the next Dave, well that's up to him. I can only get him that far, the rest is up to him.

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    11. Yeah I hope he makes it. But it is entirely up to the individual and even smart people can fail if they lack confidence or have other issues. What do you mean by "working class in mindset"?

      Recently I was reading the Hamilton commission's report on the lack of diversity in engineering jobs in motorsport. It's a report funded by Sir Lewis Hamilton, the current reigning Formula 1 champion who is the only black driver in F1 history. Anyway, what stood out to me was that some of the black engineering students interviewed said they turned down offers at universities higher ranked in the league table because "not many people look like me in those schools compared to where I am right now." I could never imagine turning down a better uni just because there weren't enough women or Asian people there, even though in 3 weeks I have to give a presentation to a room full of white men who will judge whether I stay in the program or not. But then again I grew up wealthy so I'm used to hanging around powerful people of any race, including white people, since they were my dad's friends. It does bother me a little there aren't many female Asian scientists, but at least I don't doubt I can't make people take me seriously regardless.

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    12. Sorry typo, I meant I don't doubt I COULD make people take me seriously even if they aren't Asian or a woman like myself.

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    13. Hi Amanda, that's such a good question (ref: the working class mindset) that I want to write a piece on it. May I ask you to be patient, akan datang, I will be writing a whole piece soon on it.

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