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Why are there so few black people in Oxbridge? |
Limpeh: What is your response to the article in the Guardian and Lammy's accusation of 'social apartheid'?
Marc: I don't agree with Lammy. He is making the allegation based on the fact that there are no black students in one out of three Oxford colleges. You see, I've done loads of statistics over the years, both qualitative and quantitative analysis and I can see major flaws in the way Lammy had interpreted the data. He's black, he has an agenda to fight for the rights of the blacks to get into elite colleges. He's also using this issue just to get attention, to be in the headlines.
Limpeh: But surely there is a story here, or at least something worth looking at. If I may quote the article, "the data shows that 10 out of 32 Oxford colleges did not award a place to a black British pupil with A-levels in 2015, the first time the university has released such figures since 2010. Oriel College only offered one place to a black British A-level student in six years. Similar data released by Cambridge revealed that six colleges there failed to admit any black British A-level students in the same year." The percentage of black people in the UK stands at about 3% and if you were to include those who are mixed, that rises to about 4%. I grant you that's not a particularly high figure, but zero? Not a single black student in those colleges? How did that happen? Even I would call that a statistical anomaly. One would expect there to be at least about 1 to 5% of the intake to be black, especially if you can include international students. But none? You can see why people are calling it a conspiracy or even racism. I'm not even taking sides here, it is a statistical anomaly.
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People on both sides of the argument are angry over this article. |
Marc: I have a feeling a lot of people simply read the headline of that misleading Guardian article and jumped to the conclusions that they wanted to jump to. Many people are just waiting for any opportunity to hate the elite institutions as represented by Oxbridge thus they ignored the response from the universities where they clearly stated that they had made great efforts to target students from more deprived socio-economic backgrounds, those who wouldn't normally even consider going to university, let alone Oxbridge. The impression that Lammy is trying to give those with very short attention spans is that there are a group of nasty white racist old men in these colleges in top hats deliberately discriminating against black people - that couldn't be further from the truth! But hey, in the age of social media, people are searching for confirmation bias when surfing the internet. There is no smoking gun to justify Lammy's accusation - he saw some statistics and jumped to his own conclusions without any real evidence. You'll like to think that an MP would be more careful before making such a serious allegation, but given the way we have seen Trump lie his way through his campaign and presidency and the crap we had to deal with in Brexit from Boris Johnson, well, it is sad that politicians have such a cavalier attitude towards making ridiculous accusations. This is why you shouldn't always trust politicians.
Limpeh: Okay, I've got a question. 15.9% of Oxford students are of ethnic minorities - so we're talking about various kinds of Asians like Indians, Arabs, Chinese, Koreans, Persians etc but not blacks. So clearly it is not some racist effort to keep Oxford white - they clearly have no problems with Asian students, so how can it be that so many Asians are able to find a place at Oxford whilst black students can't? I remember how in Apartheid South Africa, certain Asian nationalities like the Japanese and the Taiwanese were given 'honorary white status' and people from Japan, South Korea and Taiwan then were treated like white people under the Apartheid regime. Is this a case of Asians somehow being afforded "honorary white status" in this system or is there more to it? People are so afraid to talk about this as it is about race and racism.
Marc: No, of course not. The Asian students who have earned their places there did so through hard work and got those places fair and square. The blacks in South Africa were discriminated against by the system and treated as second class citizens but the black applicants and students in the Oxbridge system are treated exactly the same as everyone else. The number of places in these colleges are very limited and competition for these places are very intense - the admissions department take great care in making sure that the places are given to the best, most deserving students rather than allocating places according to some kind of quota system whereby you have to give a set number of places to students of a certain skin colour or ethnicity. If you want the system to be truly colour blind, then you have to allow meritocracy to do its job rather than interfere by crying foul if there are no black students as a result of the system. I cannot make this any clearer: there is no concerted campaign to discriminate against black students who apply to Oxbridge. The statistics reflect what is going on in our society today! You can't put the onus on top universities to fix the problem, that's the government's job. Lammy should be holding the government accountable, rather than attacking us.
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How do you earn yourself a place at Oxbridge then? |
Limpeh: This is the argument that people have presented to me: they said that if a working class black student from a state school in a very deprived neighbourhood applies with three Bs, then the admissions department should look at the three Bs and say, "okay, if this black student had been given the resources that a rich white family had such as private tuition, smaller class sizes in a quality private school and a much more comfortable home environment, then those three Bs would become three As and should be treated as such." What do you think about extending some leeway or leniency, some mercy, to those who have come from a deprived background or have faced difficult family circumstances?
Marc: What makes you think we don't already do that? The admissions department do look at every case very carefully but the only difference is that we're not racist: we're colour blind and a white student with blonde hair and blue eyes from a deprived background is going to need as much help and leeway as a black student from an equally deprived background. We're not going to say, "oh because of some kind of post-colonial guilt, we're going to help the black student and the white student can just fuck off because the white student has white privilege anyway." Believe it or not, we ignore skin colour in this process and we focus on social background... social class and look at a range of factors rather than just focus on skin colour. Lammy is doing us a huge disservice by ignoring the amount of efforts that the universities have put into helping such students - he is the MP for Tottenham - that's a very deprived area in London. Surely he has to represent the poorer, working class white people in his parliamentary constituency, rather than just speak on behalf of black people. Even if we were to impose a quota system to ensure that no university is without black students, what if a top university somehow meets its 'quota' of black students with black students whose parents are filthy rich? It is not as if there are no rich black people in the UK and by the same token, it is not as if there are no poor white people here either! That's why any kind of programme to help students from deprived backgrounds need to be colour blind to ensure that we help the right students. Should Obama's daughters benefit from affirmative action just because of their skin colour or should any such scheme exclude people like that because of their socio-economic status?
Limpeh: This is already done in America in the name of affirmative action: we don't have such a system in the UK as of yet. Do you think we should do what America has done to improve the status quo or has it been counter-productive?
Limpeh: You talked about this being incomplete - where else in the education system do changes need to be made, if we are talking about coming up with a far more complete solution that will address the problem in the first place, that of very few black students making it to top universities? Not all my readers are familiar with the UK education system.
Marc: Well, more resources need to be dedicated to making sure that students as early as primary school get the help they need to achieve their maximum potential - of course not everyone is Oxbridge material, but if someone has what it takes but somehow doesn't achieve their full potential because of their socio-economic circumstances, then that's when the system has to step in and help them. But why are we just focusing on the tiny number of exceptionally brilliant students who let's face it, even if they don't make it to Oxbridge, they will end up in a university that's very good as well? Alex you got rejected by Oxford and ended up in UCL, your second choice - was your life ruined as a result? Of course not. Much more can be done to help all students achieve their maximum potential, if it means helping them overcome difficult circumstances and that begins from a young age. You can't have a system that favours the rich and then expect the universities to make an exception in their admissions criteria: you need to fix the whole system that created this inequality in the first place. There are no easy fixes for such a complex problem that has been around for centuries.
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Marc wants more money invested in education for state schools. |
Limpeh: I noticed you didn't mention the word 'black' once in that. Is that the elephant in the room? After all, if you were to look at the data from the census, black people perform very poorly in every aspect from acadmic achievement to property ownership to income to participation in skilled jobs - you name it, every aspect single aspect they are at or near the bottom of the list. People don't like to point this out as they are afraid of being called racist, but if no one is willing to even acknowledge the elephant in the room, then how are we going to even begin to tackle the issue of getting more black students into top universities then if this is just one aspect of the bigger picture of black people in the UK today?
Marc: Perhaps it is the elephant in the room but what Lammy did is wrong - he reminds me of my sister.
Limpeh: Go on. What did your sister do?
Marc: My sister's 18th birthday coincided with her A levels, so she was originally going to have a party but then thought, no I need to focus on my exams. What she didn't know was that my parents and I thought it would be nice for her to at least have a few hours' break and we would throw her a surprise party. We planned it for weeks - we tried to get everything right: the cake, the gifts, inviting her friends, the entertainment. The planning was a lot of hard work and my parents took the day off work just to be at home when my sister came home from school on her birthday. But when we surprised her, somehow my sister reacted very badly. I think she was stressed out from the exams and she started crying - the cake was wrong, we haven't invited the right friends, why didn't we invite this person and why did we invite this other person, why didn't we ask her what she wanted. Okay, I admit we didn't give her the perfect 18th birthday party because it was a surprise party, but she didn't once acknowledge just how much effort my parents and I put into planning her birthday party. She threw the cake across the room and accused us of trying to ruin her birthday. She screamed at my parents, saying that it was just as well she had turned 18 as she would be at university the next year and celebrating her next birthday without us around. My mother cried, my father was so angry and upset with her, it was just awful.
Limpeh: Oh dear. I've included a Youtube video, just to provoke a reaction from my readers about how we would feel when a dumb kid throws a tantrum like that. You just wanna slap some sense into that awful kid for behaving like that.
Limpeh: I see what you mean. By turning against the universities and accusing you guys of being nasty racists, he should have played nice - he could have acknowledged the amount of outreach work that you guys have done, okay maybe the results weren't ideal, maybe you didn't quite achieve everything you set out to do. That's the same as your sister's party: you guys made a genuine effort and she threw it in your faces in a massive tantrum, making hideous accusations. Your sister lashed out because well, I suppose she was very immature or very stressed - probably both. I don't even want to start to justify Lammy's very poor choices - it does seem that the liberal left is buying his argument though I can see that he's far more interested in pandering to his supporters than working with you guys to genuinely make changes in the system for the better of black students. That makes him really quite a selfish politician because he should put aside his own ego and be far more engaging - but of course, the left are are blinded by their hatred of any institution associated with capitalism and elitism. May I state for the record that you're of an ethnic minority too Marc?
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Lammy is playing the lame blame game. |
Marc: Yes, but please, let's not elaborate on that. I'm not white, let's leave it at that.
Limpeh: Allow me to go back to the point you were making earlier, so you say it is unfair to make the universities somehow fix the situation that has been created in the system by bending the rules of the admission criteria. For my readers who are not in the UK, could you kindly elaborate on what some of these problems are in the first place.
Marc: In the UK, you have state schools which are funded by the government and they provide education free of charge to the students; rich families tend to send their kids to private schools, where they can pay a lot of fees but in exchange they get a much better quality of education: everything from much smaller class sizes, better facilities, extra lessons for the students who need help, more interesting activities like overseas trips. The private schools have more money to hire better teachers as well. So for example, if you're doing French at a private school, you'll easily get a week or two in France for that total immersion experience. But if you're doing it at a London state school, you'll be lucky to get an excursion to the Eurostar terminal at St Pancras just to be able to see some signs in French. Students in private schools are surrounded by other students who are determined and ambitious whilst those in state schools, well, all I can say is that you hope your child has decent friends who don't drag them down if you send them to a state school. The system favours the rich, who can afford to buy their children a better quality of education. If you're too poor to send your child to an elite private school, then you're rolling the dice with the state school system. Hope for the best - cross your gingers.
Limpeh: Personally, I think that people are way too focused on the tip of the iceberg - there are so many universities in the UK and plenty more other further education schemes. Why is Lammy focusing on just Oxbridge in this case? How about looking at the wider picture, talking about black students in further education in general? Further education is more than just getting a degree from Oxford or Cambridge and even if he does somehow pressure Oxbridge into taking in a few more black students just for them to say, "there, we have five black students in this college now, there we've responded now leave us alone." Great. So that's a handful of students he can help - so that's an easy goal to achieve, what about the thousands of other working class young black students who have had a much rougher deal with the British education system then? What is he doing to help them? What is he offering them - a dream that they can make it to Oxford one day because he has somehow opened up the door for them? You can see why I am cynical about Lammy.
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Poor people are the real 2nd class citizens in the UK. |
Marc: What is happening is that the government has little desire to change the education system much because there is no money to do anything useful and we'e broke as a nation - oh and Brexit doesn't help either. So asking the admission departments to bend the rules for students from state schools and/or poor families is an easy fix - but one should ask the question, why are these students getting such a shitty education in the first place? Why has the state school system let them down thus? Who is going to be held responsible for those failings? But Alex, I have a question for you if I may.
Limpeh: Okay. Go on...
Marc: You've played the role of a gatekeeper before several times in your career. I'd like to know how you'd react if you received an application from a black American student with a degree from a top US university but you don't know if this applicant has benefited from affirmative action and got his place at that university through the quota system.
Limpeh: Well. That's not happened before, I've not been in that situation before so this is a hypothetical question.
Marc: Say it is, but I just want to know how you would feel about this candidate. And say you have another black candidate from a top British university, this time, you know that British university does not practice this kind of affirmative action quota system. Which candidate are you more likely to hire then? How would this impact on your decision then?
Marc: Would you do that?
Limpeh: I would give both candidates a chance to prove themselves through the interview process but don't get me wrong, I need to see signs of brilliance from both candidates. I wouldn't assume that just because someone has been to Oxford that means that they are definitely going to be more capable - they may just be exam smart but no company is going to hire someone just to study and take exams all the time, we need to get real work done, we expect the candidate to add value, generate revenue for the company. If the Oxford graduate has had a very pampered life growing up with rich parents and the other guy had more worldly experience in terms of holding down part time jobs to put himself through college, then those differences will come out through the tests I subject them to and through the interview process. This is hardly unique as many big companies these days more or less put degrees aside and use their own methods such as psychometric tests to evaluate credible candidates. But let's be very realistic about this: it is not like, oh we're going to treat everyone the same and allow everyone to compete on an equal footing. In such a situation, you need to make it to a shortlist in the first instance to even get tested by me and I'm not necessarily looking for a good degree there, rather I am looking for signs of brilliance and there is more than one way to prove yourself to be truly exceptional.
However, if we get down to two candidates, one is your traditional white upper-middle class Oxford graduate and the other is a black working class guy who has somehow managed to triumph against the odds and prove himself, which candidate would I choose if they have both performed as well as each other? I would be more than likely to go with the Oxford graduate for no better reason than I am covering my back. I chose the Oxford graduate and things went wrong, the management would be far more forgiving and accept that with a shrug of the shoulders, "oh well, shame it didn't work out." But if I picked the somewhat unconventional candidate and gave him a chance, then things went wrong, I would be berated for having taken such risks. It takes a lot of time and money to run a recruitment process and once we've picked the right candidates, we spent even more time and money training them up and we keep on investing in them until the day they are able to generate revenue for the company. If we invest this much time and money in them and then we find out six months down the line they are not right for the job, then the gatekeeper is going to be hung out to dry I swear. Gatekeepers like me are just not in the position to 'help' candidates from more deprived backgrounds - we are often forced to go with the more conventional choice. We're not in the business of playing god, we're desperately trying to do a good job and avoid mistakes. So no, we've not perfect, we're trying our best and thus we can be quite risk averse.
Personally, I had a difficult start to life. I am autistic - autism runs in my family, my parents are severely, like off-the-scale autistic. We were working class, we weren't rich. Like we weren't starving but we were not wealthy either. I had a terrible time at school even though I was doing well academically and good at sports: my autism prevented me from making friends and I was subjected to a lot of bullying in my younger days. Without supportive parents, well, it was hard. When I was younger, I didn't even want to talk about how tough my childhood was because I felt very ashamed of myself, I didn't want people to know. I was afraid that people would look down on me if they knew - but thankfully I was blessed with enough intelligence to somehow figure my way through that mess on my own with absolutely zero help from my autistic parents. More to the point, I was also not naive, I knew that nobody was going to give me a job because they felt sorry for me. People were only going to give me a job if I could prove that I could help make them money and that was the bottom line. There are plenty of worthy charities out there you can donate your money to if you want to do some good in the world, but you do not give someone a job just because you feel sorry for them. If I didn't expect charity from others in this aspect, I am not prepared to give it either as a gatekeeper. But if I see that someone has come from a difficult background and has still managed to do well in their studies, then of course I'd have a lot more respect for that person.
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It is not up to me to help you overcome the odds in your life. |
Marc: I feel strongly that it is so wrong for the government to allow those from more deprived socio-economic backgrounds to be neglected for much of their childhood and teenage years and then suddenly turn around and accuse top universities of not admitting enough black or working class students; or big companies for not hiring enough black or working class applicants to the top positions. Why do you think working class or black students are underrepresented in top universities? Why don't we come across more working class or black people in certain professional circles? That is because they have had such a difficult start to life with the odds set against them that by the time they are 18, they find it very hard to triumph against those odds and get into a top university - fix the situation with the first 18 years of their lives, invest more heavily in primary and secondary education rather than attack the universities. We did not create this problem in the first place. It is not the fault of top companies for wishing to hire applicants from good universities. The government needs to own up and take responsibility for the situation for they are the ones who can fix it and getting top universities to allocate more places to black students isn't going to change the problem in the first place. The fact that there are so few black students in Oxbridge isn't a problem but it is merely a symptom of a much bigger problem.
Limpeh: I feel that there is something the education system can learn from what we're doing in the recruitment process.
Marc: Finally, a solution, I wanna hear this.
Limpeh: Well, it's nothing new! You know, many companies have been doing this for years. We test problem solving skills in our psychometric tests: so for example, the candidate is presented with a problematic situation pertaining to the job and we observe how the candidate comes up with a solution to this situation. It is one of those tests where there are no "right" or "model" answers that you can memorize in a textbook - quite simply, the candidate has to demonstrate that he can understand the complex problem, analyze it and then come up with a range of options that could be the right solution - then the candidate has to choose one solution and justify why he feels that is the best solution. This is not that dissimilar to say some of the tasks that you see on the programme the Apprentice - it should be all based on the real business world rather than memorizing answers from a textbook or applying formulas in a very sterile exam environment.
Limpeh: The current system needs updating. We need to remove the need to memorize formulas and eliminate as much rote learning from the exam situation as possible - rich students would have a distinct advantage because they would have good teachers and extra help to coach them through the very standard exam structures, so they are able to walk into that exam hall a lot more prepared. The current system isn't working because they are trying to cram way too much into an A level syllabus in most subjects and so the whole exam is usually geared towards testing if the student has memorized all the facts, figures and formulas - I believe the syllabus can be scaled back in terms of the content and students should be allowed to do less subjects but demonstrate a more profound understanding of what they have learnt.
Marc: You're not suggesting that we dumb down the syllabus as we?!
Limpeh: Not at all. But I want you to think about the subjects you did in school all those years ago Marc and think about how much of that knowledge you actually need as an adult. I daresay you've forgotten the vast majority of the formulas, facts and figures you've had to memorize for the many exams you've taken because they are just not relevant at all to your job today, but what you do take away is the analytical and problem solving skills you've had to demonstrate in understanding complex subjects. What is the true purpose of education then? So if we simply acknowledge that this is really the most important skill that students will take away from their time at school, then let's focus on it rather than cram them with useless information that they'll forget eventually. This way, you are leveling the playing field a lot more because it is a lot harder to prepare for this kind of exams where you have to think on your feet and come up with something on the spot, much like what I do at work on a daily basis - rather than simply regurgitate something you have memorized.
Marc: Wow. That's quite a radical shake up you are proposing.
Marc: May I play the devil's advocate here: you can indeed train children to improve their performance in IQ tests. There are pretty standard tests to do with various kinds of reasoning (abstract, logical, verbal, deductive, spatial etc). A rich kid can have an expert tutor sit down with him and explain to him how these tests work, familiarize the kid with test conditions - whilst you can't improve the child's IQ, such training can clearly improve a child's performance during the test. That's why gymnasts train hard, right? It doesn't matter how talented you are, you still need to train many hours a week before you're ready to step up and perform during a major competition, well the same principle applies to IQ tests.
Marc: How would this work in practice? Can you give me an example?
Limpeh: Okay since I am fascinated with learning languages, let me talk about my experiences with doing Chinese in school. It was completely focused on rote learning, we were forced to memorize huge chunks of texts, given that there is no alphabet system, the only way you could write loads of words in an exam is by memorizing them all. But it went beyond that, students are made to memorize stock phrases which are the equivalent of "it is raining cats and dogs" or "selling like hotcakes" - yes we know what that means, but if you use it people will just roll their eyes because it is an unoriginal cliche. It doesn't demonstrate that you have a real mastery of the language, it just goes to show that you've memorized a long list of phrases. I remember how our Chinese teacher made us memorize a really long Tang dynasty poem and it was not as if he was testing our ability to explain or understand the poem: no, we were given a week to memorize the whole darn thing and the test was basically how much of it we could write down within like 10 minutes. He didn't care if we understood the poem, he just wanted us to memorize it. Given the kind of emphasis they had on rote learning, you knew you could ace the oral exam if you simply demonstrated that you have indeed memorized the long list of phrases that you were given and conversely, if you fail to use any of those phrases, you will be penalized.
I have actually worked with people from China and they simply do not talk like that - these are native speakers of Mandarin and they have a true mastery of the language, they know how to express themselves beautifully with wit without resorting to using any of these cliche stock phrases. They would often come up with original witty phrases to express themselves - I remember suggesting to my Chinese colleague that we could go to the museum of modern art and she said, "对不起我是没有文化细胞的" ("sorry I am devoid of cells for culture"). That meant that there wasn't a single cell in her that was interested in going to the museum of modern art. Now I thought that was witty and original, that was the kind of fun expression a native speaker could come up with but if she used that in the Chinese exam, the teacher would have probably failed her for trying to be too clever and not using one of the stock phrases she was told to memorize for the sake of the exams. So this is clearly an example of how we desperately need to move away from rote learning and focus more on whether the students can apply what they know in an everyday situation or business context where they have to use the language. In fact, in the times when I had to use Mandarin in my work, I would steer clear of using those cliche phrases for they would only make me sound stupid. Instead, it is more about me making the most of my knowledge of Mandarin creatively and imaginatively, that's how I demonstrate my mastery of the Chinese language.
Marc: I see a problem though in implementing this. The current system favours the rich and those who are poor are at a disadvantage, would the rich want to level the playing field or keep that advantage they currently have? I have a good friend whose son is kinda dumb, he's a good kid but just talking to him, you can sense that he's not intelligent at all. But guess what? His family is rich and they have sent him to an expensive private school where they have gotten him the best help he can get. We all know that boy is stupid, even his parents have admitted as much - but his family are doing everything to ensure that they can pass him off as an intelligent person able to have a fighting chance of getting a decent job in the future. The boy can memorize stuff for exams, but there's no real intelligence required in doing that. Still, he is able to do okay in this system which does allow him to masquerade as someone with average intelligence. Rich people like my friend want to retain the status quo because it allows that boy to retain a shred of respectability - if I may point out the obvious, not all rich kids are intelligent, even if they do have the resources to get the best education money can buy.
Limpeh: So Marc, what do you think about my proposal? Can it work? Is it realistic?
Marc: Sounds great in principle but trying to change the education system in this country so radically... it won't happen. Not in the short run anyway. I'm afraid many who are involved in education have never ever worked outside the education sector - the teachers for example would have probably worked all their lives in a school and have no idea what kind of challenges their students would face looking for a job in the real world. That's why we need the government to take charge and implement these major changes to help keep our education relevant to this day and age - I place the responsibility for this in the hands of the government. But instead, people like Lammy are just interested in playing the blame game and even you've come up with far more practical solutions than to point fingers. This is why the situation is so dismal and disappointing when a blogger like you can be far more resourceful than a supposedly well-respected MP.
Limpeh: Let's end on that note. Many thanks for taking the time to talk to me Marc.
Marc: Thank you too.
I'm curious, are African British (if that's the right term) deliberately disadvantaged against historically?
ReplyDeleteThe argument for affirmative action in the US is that African Americans are deliberately targeted in government policies such as the Drug War or redlining districts. It is compelling to me if you consider how the US lack in public transport, if you need a reliable car to get to work you're limited in the jobs you can apply for which could snowball to weaker economic advancement.
As far as I know, African immigrants in the US don't have the same issues, is it the same in Britain?
Hi Bay. The situation in the UK is different - in the US, there is the legacy of slavery as most black people can trace their ancestors to a slave so if that's the kind of start you have in life (as a slave or as a child of a slave), you're always battling the odds that are stacked against you. As a result, the blacks are always struggling to get ahead socially and economically - though enough generations have passed by for there to have been the first black president.
DeleteIn the UK, yes we were complicit in the slave trade but few slaves settled in the UK as they were mainly used for cheap labour in the plantations in the colonies in North America. Those who did settle here have moved here mostly through the ties the UK has with her former colonies in Africa as economic migrants (rather than slaves brought there against their will).
Also, there was a huge influx of black-Caribbean migrants starting in 1948 and continuing through the 1950s and 1960s as Britain was rebuilding her economy after WW2 and needed a lot of cheap labour, so Britain turned to her former colonies and opened the doors: this generation was called the 'Windrush' generation as many black migrants from the former British colonies in the Caribbean took the opportunity to get better paid work in the UK.
So why are they poorer than the whites and the Asians? Sigh. It is a tough one - you see the Windrush generation didn't comprise of doctors, lawyers, engineers, professors and millionaires. No they were cheap labour - people to do the dirty work that the whites didn't want to do for very little money.
If your parents are not very educated and do menial work for very little money, then the odds are stacked against you because they don't have the money to pay for you to go to a quality private school, they can't even help you with your homework and there will be a general lack of aspiration as well if all the adults in your community are all lowly educated labourers who earn very little money.
Let's compare this to the Filipino community in the UK which comprises of primarily two groups:
1. Filipina women who have British husbands.
2. Nurses, doctors and other skilled professions (mostly in the medical sector) who have come over to work
The UK has never tried to recruit cheap labour from the Philippines, thus that means that the Filipinos who do make it here either have done so by marrying a spouse rich enough to meet the spousal visa requirements, or they are rich already and are highly skilled. So you don't get he problem of Filipinos being disadvantaged socially in the UK - on the contrary, as a minority group, they are doing very well.
So no, it is not racism, simply a side effect having a large number of very lowly skilled migrants come in to do your dirty work - they weren't thinking "oh what will happen 50, 70 years from now?" They were just thinking of getting cheap labour to do the job that the locals didn't want to do then.
Oh and we don't use the word 'African-British' - I know you're thinking of 'African-American' but we simply use the word 'black'. The word 'black' isn't racist or offensive. The fact is many of the black people in the UK have not come directly from Africa but many have come via the former British colonies in the Caribbean. Places like Bahamas, Jamaica, Bermuda, St Vincent, Grenada etc. Geographically that places them in the Caribbean which is the part of the world they trace their cultural heritage to - yes we are aware that somewhere along the way in history, some white slave traders brought their ancestors to the Caribbean islands from Africa, but then some of those African slaves then mixed with the local Caribbean people and intermarried. It is quite complicated, so we just use the word 'black' rather than African because we now also have migrants who have come from Africa directly recently.
DeleteY'know Limpeh, I know you're a very capable and smart man, but it seems like you have a bit of an axe to grind about IQ... I've read your previous posts, and I knew you were bullied in school about academics, but that this very thing is what got you to move to a higher social class than your parents. Well, I grew up in a private school, and I was bullied, but only for being "different." It was a lot worse when I went to Singapore for uni and I went to school with people from different social classes. There, people didn't like me very much because I was good at what I liked (physics and engineering) AND I had money. But over time, I kinda saw it from other people's point of view, particularly because not many engineers want to be engineers, it's just the most respectable career they could get with what they were good at.
DeleteThis will sound idealistic, and life doesn't work that way, but at least in our personal lives we don't have to pay attention to how the rest of society is, but if everyone can just do their best and we can all have nice jobs, then why bother about IQ? Life is not a zero sum game where 95% of the world is uneducated and doing hard labour while a small 5% isn't. Yes there are many overqualified degree holders doing menial work. And sure, you can put the top 5% of IQ in the good jobs because they "deserve it", but will it really make life better for the other 95%? If it doesn't, then these low IQ people will be justified in their attacks on the high IQ people, they will say "what's in it for me "smart girl/guy"? Nothing, you're just using your advantage to abuse me." You talk about how the smartest people are always deserving of the best jobs, and that the least smartest are deserving of the worst jobs, but those rich mediocre kids getting into good jobs and staying there, how big of a difference does it make to society if we got someone smarter there instead? It depends on the person in the job. If they see life as just a zero sum game, then nothing changes. If they don't, and they believe they have something to contribute to society, then it will. But that only comes if you respect other people. Else there is nothing "special" about anyone high IQ vs. anyone low IQ, they will just be rats in the rat-race out for themselves and using every advantage to win. So I don't really believe that if you have a high IQ you should demand a lot from everyone else, unless you do something with it that justifies a fair "exchange" of goods/services, not just in a zero sum game of good jobs vs bad jobs.
Looking through the article, it seems that it is specifically black British students that are having problems getting into Oxford, I'm curious to know the ratio for black international students.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your friend Marc, establishing affirmative action policies is just a feel good policy. The numbers look better but it doesn't resolve the problem at all. If they're not getting in on their own merit, having that Oxford degree as a black student is redundant.
That argument has been made against affirmative action here in the US as well. Would a black student that got in through affirmative action into the Ivy Leagues really be able to compete with his other peers ? Or is the idea that as long as the black student could get that prestigious degree he is automatically guaranteed a successful career and entryway into the upper strata of economic success? Is being in the bottom half of Oxford better than being a middling student in say King's College or NTU ?
What do you think?
Hi Bay. I'm going to point out the elephant in the room. Is it a question of IQ then? Do black people naturally have a lower IQ than say white or Asians? The answer is no. Let's get that over and done with. There is no correlation whatsoever between skin colour and IQ. What you get is the bell curve (which I often use in my articles) and you get a spread of IQ throughout people of any skin colour: black, white, Asians etc. The kind of intelligence you need to make it to Oxbridge is going to be found in like the top 1% to 3% percent anyway, so let me put it this way to you.
DeleteIf a child is spotted early enough in the education system that s/he is indeed that brilliant, that s/he has a chance of making it to Oxbridge, then the teacher will take the child aside and say, "did anyone tell you that you're top 1%?" Well, my teacher did that to me in JC and gave me 1-to-1 tuition (for free) in JC to prepare me for the Oxford entry exam. He hadn't sent anyone to Oxford for a long time and I was desperate for his approval, being a socially awkward autistic kid so I worked my socks off to impress my teacher. I was very lucky to have met such a wonderful teacher to whom I owe so much.
If he hadn't told me that I was special, that I even stood a chance, I doubt I would have applied to Oxford. Now think about the black students in the UK who are amongst the top 1 to 3% within their year group - how many of them would have the balls to say, "I'm special, I'm the best, I'm going to apply to Oxbridge and I'm going to get in". I suspect that unless their parents are rich (and hey there are rich black people, just stating the obvious) or unless they go to a good school with caring teachers, many of those brilliant black kids will not realize they are top 1% - even if they are good students, they'll not aim as high as Oxford or Cambridge and settle for a university that is a little easier to get into.
This is why I think Lammy missed the point - he is so focused about racism, he keeps playing the race card that he has totally missed the point about social class. Say a couple of rich black students like Malia and Sasha Obama (his daughters) go to Oxford and okay, so they're black they tick the diversity box? They are as elite and rich as they come! Their darker skin colour does nothing for diversity! It would be far more meaningful to get a brilliant white kid from a deprived housing estate into Oxford, but no, Lammy is blinded by his desire to play the race card for everything.
Onto your questions:
1. There is always a question mark hanging over black students in top US universities: did they get in with some help or on their own merit? It must really suck for those who did get in on their own merit as people are going to question them anyway based on their skin colour and treat them as second class graduates whether they deserve it or not. They are going to work twice as hard to prove themselves compared to their peers - is that fair? I think not.
2. No, prestigious degrees help but they are no guarantee. Initially, when you embark on your first job, you make that first job application: yeah you're almost certainly guaranteed to get through the selection process to land yourself that interview because any gatekeeper is going to be impressed with the fact that you've got a degree for Oxford/Cambridge. But whether you land that job depends on your performance during the interview - but you know what, getting that foot in the door is usually all these people need as they're smart enough to wing it from there.
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DeleteHowever! Let's fast forward about 10 years post graduation. The tables then turn, because if the gatekeeper sees a CV and if the Oxford graduate hasn't achieved much, I'll be like, "what went wrong? This guy went to Oxford and he's not exactly had an impressive career - look at these mundane jobs he's done. Probably just some geek who's good at passing exams, that's how he made it to Oxford but as useful as a chocolate tea pot in the business world. I'm not touching him." You set expectations very high as a graduate from such prestigious universities and people are going to say, "I'm disappointed in you" a lot more quickly. Compare that to a non-graduate who achieves the same amount, people are going to say, "wow, he's done a lot for a non-graduate". See? Expectations. And yes I know two Oxford graduates who are struggling against that 'disappointment' that gatekeepers have leveled at them for not having lived up to those very high expectations.
4. Is it better to be at the bottom of the heap in Oxford than a middling student in another university? I would say, YES. At least you have a chance to emerge as an Oxford graduate. I'm afraid you have asked a very Singaporean question, it's a very kiasu-kiasi mentality. By this token, you may as well go to a university at the bottom of the league table - breeze through the course and emerge as the top student there, you'll probably win every award they have to offer but is a gatekeeper going to be impressed? Hell no. It takes us like 1 minute or less to Google the position of that university on the league table rankings.
And sure you may score better at a "middling university" like NTU compared to Oxford, but guess what? Gatekeepers like me do not look at the grades for each of your individual modules - no, we simply look at the university and form an impression about the kind of calibre you are and Oxbridge still trumps everything. I know, there are Singaporean gatekeepers who will want to run through your PSLE results and probably ask you to submit everything down to your primary one exam results - but who in the right mind would want to work for a fucked up Singaporean company like that? In the rest of the world, you'll rather be an Oxford grad with mediocre results than a top student from NTU - given the way Singapore is full of expats and global companies setting up shop in Singapore, even if you don't leave Singapore to work abroad, your future boss may be a non-Singaporean or at least a Singaporean who isn't going to be the kind of stereotypical HR idiot who would scrutinize your PSLE results. Besides, settling for NTU when you have the opportunity to go to Oxford would tell me that you're a coward who shies away from a challenge - yet another reason for me to say no to you. You've gotta weigh out the pros & the cons and see things from my point of view - the gatekeeper's POV.
5. Oh and another important point you've missed Bay. Nobody gives a flying fuck what you studied at university or school. By the time you get into the working world, you'd have forgotten like 95% of everything you studied to pass those exams. That is why results don't matter - it only serves as a prove of character: is this guy able to work under pressure and deliver results? Does he have the discipline to do what it takes to deliver the good grades he needs in the exams? Otherwise, the actual content, the actual grades are meaningless to any gatekeeper - what I am really looking for is signs of brilliance, intelligence because anyone can work hard, but not everyone is naturally intelligent. An idiot can study 12 hours a day, but that's not going to increase his IQ - nothing can. You just get good at memorize stuff for exams.
DeleteNow what good is that for me in the business world? Let me tell you about my sister. She did badly in her finals at NUS because she was struck down by dengue fever that year and spent quite a few weeks prior to the exam prior in hospital, fighting for her life. Yeah that really screwed up her results - but any decent gatekeeper would hear that story and give her another way to prove herself to be of exceptionally high intelligence and worthy of the job. I'm saying it is hard to get into a university like Oxford, but it is easy to cook up an 'excuse' like dengue fever (or any kind of illness in your final year) to explain why you didn't get the grades you wanted there.
You know, even the gatekeepers in Singapore had enough sense to understand what my sister is made of, she is a brilliant woman who had dengue fever at the wrong time. Even the gatekeepers in Singapore were not going to penalize her for that. Getting into Oxford in the first place is enough proof that you're brilliant, not doing well there can easily be explained away. And if you meet a gatekeeper who's a fucking idiot, then please don't miss your cue to tell them to go fuck themselves.
Y'know Limpeh, I know you're a very capable and smart man, but it seems like you have a bit of an axe to grind about IQ... I've read your previous posts, and I knew you were bullied in school about academics, but that this very thing is what got you to move to a higher social class than your parents. Well, I grew up in a private school, and I was bullied, but only for being "different." It was a lot worse when I went to Singapore for uni and I went to school with people from different social classes. There, people didn't like me very much because I was good at what I liked (physics and engineering) AND I had money. But over time, I kinda saw it from other people's point of view, particularly because not many engineers want to be engineers, it's just the most respectable career they could get with what they were good at. They didn't like the fact that they were struggling so bad, while having to compete with me who actually likes what I do and am competent at it. And I don't blame them, it's just bad luck.
DeleteThis will sound idealistic, and life doesn't work that way, but at least in our personal lives we don't have to pay attention to how the rest of society is, but if everyone can just do their best and we can all have nice jobs, then why bother about IQ? Life is not a zero sum game where 95% of the world is uneducated and doing hard labour while a small 5% isn't. Yes there are many overqualified degree holders doing menial work. And sure, you can put the top 5% of IQ in the good jobs because they "deserve it", but will it really make life better for the other 95%? If it doesn't, then these low IQ people will be justified in their attacks on the high IQ people, they will say "what's in it for me "smart girl/guy"? Nothing, you're just using your advantage to abuse me." You talk about how the smartest people are always deserving of the best jobs, and that the least smartest are deserving of the worst jobs, but those rich mediocre kids getting into good jobs and staying there, how big of a difference does it make to society if we got someone smarter there instead? It depends on the person in the job. If they see life as just a zero sum game, then nothing changes. If they don't, and they believe they have something to contribute to society, then it will. But that only comes if you respect other people. Else there is nothing "special" about anyone high IQ vs. anyone low IQ, they will just be rats in the rat-race out for themselves and using every advantage to win. So I don't really believe that if you have a high IQ you should demand a lot from everyone else, unless you do something with it that justifies a fair "exchange" of goods/services, not just in a zero sum game of good jobs vs bad jobs.
Amanda, you sound quite idealistic and I don't mean that in a bad way - but you need to consider that we're working for companies that are able to generate profit and make money. I know there's no direct correlation between IQ and the ability to make money but the person who can generate more money for the company, the person who can add more value will get paid a lot more than the person who can only contribute very little.
DeleteIn my office, I have a good job and I'm paid a lot of money for what I do - then there's the cleaner whom I'm guessing may be Filipino but I have no idea, he's some kind of Asian. Ironically, we're the only two Asians in the building and he's paid the minimum wage for cleaning the office whilst I'm paid a lot of money for what I do - how is that fair? Well, it depends on how much value you place on us being able to work in a clean office vs what I bring to the table as a salesman. Quite simply, the moment you factor in companies trying to make a profit, any concept of 'fairness' goes out of the window.
@Amanda, i agree with you that we ought to forgive past grievances - it holds us back and there's shall we say a victim at "both ends of the gun." I'm ambivalent on the topic of IQ, but i'm damned sure of one thing: life is competition.
DeleteA capitalist game of demand-supply is indeed harsh on those who cannot supply goods and services that are in high demand, but what better alternative has there ever been? I don't think it's a zero-sum game, but there will always be winners and losers.
Hold on now. You do realize that, when you claim blacks don't have a lower IQ than other races, your assertion flies in the face of decades of peer-reviewed scientific research, right? It's a well-documented fact that different races have different IQs on average. This isn't some Josef Goebbels-esque Nazi propaganda; the scientific community is pretty much in agreement that there are significant differences in IQ between the different racial groups. I know you don't like the facts, but facts don't care about your feelings; they are what they are. This is not a conspiracy whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteTo deny this would be ridiculous and pure political correctness. There could be a myriad of reasons why this IQ disparity exists (e.g. cultural differences leading to sexual selection, health/nutrition, education, environmental factors, evolutionary/genetic factors, etc. etc.), and this is subject for debate -- fair enough. After all, the scientific community seems to be much more at odds with one another when it comes to why this disparity exists than whether this disparity exists. We can even debate if IQ is even a meaningful measure of intellect, intelligence, and cognitive ability.
But to assert that blacks have the same average/mean IQ compared to the other races is garbage -- politically correct but factually wrong. Even if the IQ among blacks exemplify a standard normal distribution (bell curve), the mean as well as the standard deviation from the mean differ significantly as compared to other races. Simple statistics
I'd assert that blacks are blessed physically but lack intellectually relative to other races, it's as simple as that. The empirical data don't lie. Look at who's dominating athletic pursuits and who's underrepresented in intellectual pursuits.
Affirmative action exists simply to give an unfair advantage to the less intellectual for the sake of social engineering, if not for appearances. It's racist by definition. If blacks are inherently as smart as the rest, affirmative action wouldn't exist at all. And spare me all that "historically disadvantaged" crap -- the statute of limitations on that pathetic excuse needs to expire already after over a century.
If blacks push for affirmative action, then they need to accept the consequences, which include the possibility that people might question their credentials for the rest of their lives. If you don't want that sort of negative stigma, fight affirmative action, speak up against racism. And spare the rest of us the race card when you don't have things go your way.
Hi Hmong. You know what? I stand corrected, you're right. I'm wrong. I did do some reading on the issue before replying: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race_and_intelligence
DeleteAllow me to explain my POV nonetheless:
Regardless of how the averages stack up, only the top 1-2% of any racial group will ever make it to the very best universities in the UK or US, that is on the assumption that the admissions and selection process is rigorous enough to only pick the best of the best. So IMHO, what happens with the 98-99% of the population is irrelevant in this case, as long as there are some black students in the top 1 - 2% who are good enough to gain admission to these top universities.
Now what you seem to be postulating is that even the top 1% (or the very best black student) would still fall short of the minimum entry standard of a college at Oxbridge (correct me if I am wrong), thus the only way to achieve some kind of diversity quota is to lower the standard for anyone who is black. But then there are (like you said above), so many other factors: Obama's daughters are black but they have such a huge advantage due to environmental factors compared to the black students from poorer families living in awful conditions.
And from a completely personal and non-scientific POV, I have been led to believe that the allocation of IQ is totally random. I believe that my sisters and I have above average IQ, modesty aside, my IQ is high (let's leave it at that), I can see that my nephew's IQ is average (he's autistic, it is his social skills that are the problem, not his intelligence but he is in a neighbourhood secondary school as a result of his PSLE results). And then my parents - where do I even begin? Low IQ/EQ, good grief. My nephew is average but my parents definitely are below average and part of the process of me coming to terms with all of this, finding peace with my parents is based on one simple thought: thank goodness I didn't turn out like my parents, thank goodness I'm not as stupid as them.
I would've gone as far as to entertain the idea that somehow I was adopted (hey, I have 2 older sisters, they may have been so desperate for a boy ... who knows) but my two older sisters are extremely intelligent too! So how the heck do two average to below-average parents give birth to 3 kids who have above average intelligence? My brother in law is also of extremely high caliber like way above average intelligence, but my nephew seems to be quite average. You can see why even within my family, there is little correlation between the IQ of the child and parents. In fact if there was any correlation, I'd probably be as stupid as my parents - but somehow I am not. And much of my frustration with my parents growing up was due to the fact that they were unable to understand what the hell was going on in my life the moment things got just too complex for them to comprehend - this sense of ... relief + gratitude that I'm not plain stupid is not even directed at my parents and since I am an atheist, I don't even have a 'god' to be grateful to, but it is the main driving force that has helped me maintain my relationship with my parents this year.
So admittedly, that's why I am of the belief that IQ is completely random and I got super lucky in this lucky draw. And I know that this is completely illogical and doesn't stand up to scientific scrutiny at all, my own experience has tainted/influenced my perception: I thought, well, geniuses can pop up anywhere regardless of social class, skin colour, family background, ethnicity, culture and most of all, your parents. But I put my hands up to say that it was wrong of me to have those assumptions which are mostly based on my own experience.
My stance is more on "IQ Averages are more dependent on upbringing rather than race". Similar to what LIFT mentioned but more on thinking that the way we evaluate IQ is antique and fault-ridden that the quantifying method measures on certain abstract thinking abilities that upbringing and education can influence so it is not a very good measure of the abilities of a person as an overall.
DeleteThe concept of intelligence is extremely complex, and so is the field of genetics/evolution. Scientists have not been able to isolate any particular gene(s) that can be held directly responsible for cognitive ability, but there's sufficient consensus that human intelligence is partly hereditary. The mechanics of how that happens exactly is still a scientific unknown.
DeleteObviously from your own experience, you wouldn't see clear patterns; it would almost seem random, and I don't blame you if you liken it to a "lucky draw." But not all is as it seems -- absence of evidence is not evidence of absence. Hell, my own parents have patently-low IQs as well, and I struggle to find one person in my extended family who I'd consider intelligent. Yet I've always done extremely well in standardized tests like IQ tests. What gives?
My point is that anecdotal evidence is not good scientific evidence.
So now that we've got that out of the way, and we accept that blacks simply aren't as smart as the other races, should we advocate for affirmative action (AA) for blacks?
My answer is definitely not. You can't help a population by creating equal outcomes, as opposed to creating equal opportunities. You'll just drag everyone else down to their level. How so?
1) If you lower the entry requirements for blacks, you're not doing them any favors UNLESS you also lower the difficulty of the courses. Otherwise they'll just struggle and linger at the bottom of the class anyway, some would even drop out, because they're just so completely out of their element in a difficult course at a top university. Thomas Sowell, a prominent black economist, brought up this problem and suggested that blacks would be better off with peers of similar ability.
2) Well guess what? If blacks aren't doing just as well as the rest, it's inevitable that courses have to be slowed down and pitched more at their level, because professors can't just abandon them. This is also a recurring problem with "inclusive schooling," where retarded kids who're forcibly integrated into mainstream schooling end up slowing down the pace and reducing the depth of the lessons, and we have no choice but to cater to them.
3) You subsidize stupidity, you get more of it. If you drop admission standards for blacks, they have no incentive to improve themselves. The only incentive they have is to be better than other black students applying.
4) It deepens resentment between blacks vs. others. Blacks will hate the fact that the others are still doing way better than them; the others will of course resent those blacks for being given a handout, that they have to work even harder just to get there just because they have the wrong skin color. I don't see how it promotes racial integration or celebrates diversity.
5) Hell, smart blacks will hate the AA blacks, because they loathe the fact that they're lumped into the same category, when they would have made it even without AA. There's just no way of knowing, is there?
By the way, I AM claiming that the top 1-3% of black people routinely fall short of the admission criteria of top US/UK universities. You really think the top blacks can compete with the top white/Jewish/East Asian/Indian students? I highly doubt it.
Just like we can all agree that even the best Chinese runners cannot outrun the best black runners. Can you imagine if we have racial quotas for the Olympic 100m finals? It would be totally absurd, and it invalidates the entire premise of the event. It becomes a political parade. The same thing is happening with the top US/UK universities.
Guess what? UC-Berkeley had decided in the past not to adopt AA. As a result, over 40% of the students are of Asian descent. We're vastly over-represented compared to the Asian population in the US, which is 5%.
Do you think that sort of demographic lop-sidedness is some racist conspiracy against blacks, or do you think that the top Asians are just smarter than the top blacks?
Hi Homong. Good points and I agree with what you have said. Not much to add to that but let me respond to the bit about our families, then I'll turn back to the topic.
DeleteWhen my nephew got his very average PSLE score (which led him to a neighbourhood secondary school rather than any of his top 5 choices), he was disappointed of course and both his parents did well enough in their PSLE to get into very good schools in Singapore. So what was my sister's reaction? She started putting herself down - I'm not sure if she genuinely believed it or if it was something she came up with to make my nephew feel better. She said, "oh back in the 1980s, the PSLE was a lot easier and the system was different, if I had to take the same exam today, I would score even worse than you." Do I believe that for a second? Of course not. My sister has an extremely senior job with huge responsibilities, for which she is richly rewarded for. She is anything but stupid - stupid people don't get jobs like that done. She is stunningly intelligent, both in terms of IQ and EQ, yet I think she is culturally messed up to the point where her first instinct is to put herself down as that's what she is culturally conditioned to do. I didn't say a word of course because I don't ever contradict her in front of her child - but silently I thought, I'm not buying that, you think your son is buying that line? If he does, then perhaps he really does belong in a neighbourhood secondary school. Well that's what I thought anyway, but as usual, I kept my mouth shut.
Turning back to the topic: I think there is the danger that there could be various socio-economic, cultural, environmental factors that will lead even intelligent people (like my sister) to constantly lose confidence in themselves and put themselves down; that would stop them from doing things like even applying to a top university. The best thing to do is to address people like my sister who are prone to such factors (in her case, it's definitely sexism & misogyny in Chinese society which do not see females as equals) - these are clearly problems in society that have left certain groups marginalized. I'd rather reach out and help these people earlier in their lives, intervention in their earlier years in secondary education to make sure that those who are truly intelligent do have the opportunity to realize their full potential in spite of all the problems in their lives which could hold them back. People like my sister. Yes she's found her niche and is doing very well today, but I do wonder what she could have achieved if she wasn't held back by my parents and their culture?
You wanna know how fucked up my upbringing was? My parents used to tell me not to do things like take part in competitions or apply for scholarships - why? Because if I don't even apply or take part, I'll spare myself the disappointment if I don't win. #facepalm They used to give me so much grief about how they work hard to bring me up and all I do is make them upset each time I come home disappointed and sad having not achieved something too ambitious. Holy fuck. Thank goodness I chose to ignore their crap otherwise I'd be some loser today. Under those circumstances, think about how the perfect Asian daughter - my sister - would 'thrive' under their fucked up parenting. Like seriously, my parents could have really fucked me up so bad if not for the fact that I was so rebellious and often did the complete opposite of what they told me to do just to piss them off. "Oh you don't want me to apply for that scholarship? That's it, I'm applying."
Thus I agree, you can't artificially alter the system with AA - it just fucks everything up. I'd rather there be programmes to help people like the case of my sister who were held back by fucked up cultural factors and plain bad parenting.
Oh and to be fair. I don't think my parents ever set out to royally fuck up their own children - no. They're just genuinely stupid and clueless, they really have no fucking clue what they are doing, like they are thaaat stupid. If they ever knew how they messed up my sister so badly (that's a hypothetical point), I'm sure they'll be horrified. But they're in denial of course, as that's what stupid people do when they can't face facts.
DeleteRegardless, there's a huge difference between fucking someone up out of malice and out of sheer stupidity - in my parents' case, it is clearly the latter as they're too stupid to be capable of malice. Duh.
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